Bigger the boobs, bigger the judgement? Or would you disagree?

[iamsoreadyforbednow]

I’m 11days PP with my second baby. I was unable to breastfeed my first due to a handful of issues. But this baby is an absolute trooper on the boob and it’s made me completely fall in love with breastfeeding rather than be stressed as I thought I would be as I struggles so much the first time.

I had a c-section so I haven’t managed to really get out yet, and now I have covid anyway but my test is getting fainter so starting to think about getting out a little bit more. (Aware I can go out anyway now but it just feels like I’m breaking the rules and would have to spread the virus anyway. I wouldn’t go out spreading flu or norovirus so treating it the same)

Anyway, I have a large bust that makes me very self conscious, it always has since I was in my early teens (hit E cup at 13) - I’m always reading about people being asked to cover up, getting looks ect when BF in public and the thought of someone side-eyeing me or confronting me makes my anxiety skyrocket with fear. - it’s swaying me toward pumping and taking a bottle while out and about but honestly that also makes me sad because I love the bonding we have when he’s actually on the boob.

So my question is; am I likely to get more ‘attention’ with a large bust? I’m trying to prepare myself to just bite the bullet and ignore any nay-sayers. But then if it’s going to be a regular occurrence I think my anxiety would be better off with me pumping and bottle feeding while out of the house.

I'm a G cup but went up to a K cup whilst breastfeeding. I never got any negative comments, and I breastfed for 7 years in total (spread over different kids!)

The only comments I ever got when bf in public were positive. Enjoy the special bond.

I bf everywhere and nobody noticed or commented.. 11 times... Absolutely no need to be flashing any sized boobs!

I’ve been breastfeeding for 6 years spanning different DC and I’ve never had a negative comment. I just have a top on where a bit pulls up and a bit pulls down, so I’m not sure many people even notice.

It can be more difficult to be "discreet" with certain shaped/sized boobs. So long as you are happy that you aren't "flashing" more than you are comfortable with go for it.

I only ever got positive comments - 3DC over 15 years ago.

There’s a brilliant page on Facebook called “can I breastfeed in it” which shows high street clothing worn by mums and easy to feed in. I don’t have as large a chest but I’ve breastfed out and about for 3.5 years with my 2 and never had a negative comment. A few people maybe embarrassed but that’s their issue. I don’t flash lots of boob and particularly in the earlier days I wore lots of breastfeeding clothes with specific flaps/zips which helped keep me covered.

Hopefully you will be able to build up your confidence too. Congratulations on your baby and your brilliant start breastfeeding!

I’ve been feeding my son for 9 months and have never encountered any negative looks or comments. I’ve fed in restaurants, a church, propped on a grit bin at a car show, as well as more normal places 😂

Wear something you feel comfortable to breastfeed in - especially in the early days whilst you’re still getting to grips with getting baby latched on. I find wearing a nursing bra, then a stretchy vest top under a normal tee or jumper works best. Lift up the top tee/jumper, pull down the stretchy vest and nursing bra and pop baby on. Your tummy stays covered, as does the top of your breast.

I've never had a negative comment and I've breastfed for 4 years now. And I'm anything but discrete- I pull the whole breast out of my top and latch baby on; no covers or anything. My youngest is now 18 months old too, so more divisive than breastfeeding a newborn, and I've still not had any negativity.

I think these days everyone has their head in their phone so they don't notice, and for the most part you'll just look like you're cradling the baby anyway.

I never had any negative comments or even bad looks. Nor have any of the other women I know who've breastfed tbh. I think a lot of negative stories are from America if you are reading online.

Practise feeding in front of the mirror on a dining chair at different angles if you are nervous. You'll be able to see how much other people can see- mostly it's very little.

I once saw a lady on a plane breast feed her baby. As soon as she sat down and got her and baby's belonging sorted, she put baby under her thin tee shirt for baby to suckle. Not only did it avoid baby getting ear problems during take off, baby seemed to sleep for the majority of the flight.

The only thought that struck me was that she's timed that very well.

Breast feeding is a natural thing to do. If I see someone doing it,I avert my eyes on the off chance they (not me) might be embarrassed.

Just do it. The size of your breasts are no one else businesses. If someone else feels uncomfortable with you doing it, well, they've got the problem, not you.

I breastfed 4dc with size 30HH boobs, often in public places. Never noticed a single bad look or anything negative at all. Lots and lots of positive and kind (not pervy) attention, particularly when feeding my twins.

For my own wishes I never flashed a whole boob out for a feed outside my home. I worked out that a thin vest top under a normal t-shirt/top allowed me to achieve a breastfeeding top effect on a very limited budget. So lift top and pull down vest top, nothing much visible for more than a second before baby latches on.

I was a DD before getting pregnant, honestly don't know what I am now that I'm breastfeeding but I feel like they've doubled in size! I breastfeed pretty much everywhere. No one will look close enough to see what size you're breasts are, in fact they'll avoid looking at you at all when they realise you're breastfeeding.

The only situation I'm uncomfortable breastfeeding in is in front of male family members or friends husbands etc, I always have a ready to drink bottle of formula in the baby bag for such occasions!

I’m an E/F and had no issues. Currently breastfeeding my 1 year old and breastfed her brother to 18 months. Got zero comments.

I never had any negative comments while breastfeeding. I don't think breast size makes much difference because generally you don't whop the whole thing out, you pull a top up or use a nursing top so nobody can see what you're doing once baby is latched on.

I'm a K and had no negative comments. I did invest in some feeding hoodies for my 2nd (November) child purely because I wanted to get less cold but didn't bother with my first (August).

I don’t think people really notice - I know I don’t. Another one where the only attention was people telling me how lovely it was to see a contented baby. I met nothing but kindness and breastfed in restaurants, on trains etc etc

I never used a bottle. Never had a negative comment. I did have a couple of people come over to say hello to the baby when he was feeding discreetly in a sling and I had to say erm he’s busy eating right now.

I think most people are very comfortable with breastfeeding and for the minority thst aren’t I suspect it won’t matter whether your boobs are big or small. Much may depend on the culture your local area: what is normal in South England may be stared at in Scotland.

Suggest you carry a scarf (or even buy a breastfeeding scarf that you clip round your neck, it covers your whole front), or get a couple of breastfeeding tops if you are ok to spend the money.

Mostly I was able to find a private area eg duck behind a tree / pillar etc.

Big boobs here, never had any problems with breastfeeding my 3 DC in public.

@DockOTheBay

I never had any negative comments while breastfeeding. I don't think breast size makes much difference because generally you don't whop the whole thing out, you pull a top up or use a nursing top so nobody can see what you're doing once baby is latched on.

In defence of 'whopping the whole thing out' people don't notice that either in my experience. I used to faff around with nursing tops and scarves and double vests and all manner of nonsense, until I realised that no one actually gives a fuck.

I'm still feeding my two year old, including out and about when needed, and neither me nor my G cups have received a single negative comment. I don't exactly whack my whole boob out, but I've never gone in for elaborate covers or anything either, too much of a faff.

I hope you can grow to feel confident feeding out and about. One of the biggest joys of breastfeeding for me is how much easier it made it to leave the house, and how convenient it was never having to worry about taking feeding supplies with me.

I think you have to change your mentality. If someone has an issue with your boobs, then it is their issue and not yours. So go for it.