Struggling with 20 month old DD

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Currently 30 weeks pregnant with baby no 2. I think DD knows something is up as she is just so up and down at the moment. It’s constant tantrums, constant not wanting to do as she is told. If she doesn’t get what she wants she goes mad. I know this is normal for this age but I’m finding it so hard

I feel so bad for saying it but I feel like I’m not enjoying this stage of parenting and it’s making me anxious for the arrival of no2. She was such a chilled baby and just a total joy, and now I don’t know what to do.

Please tell me it will pass?

Have you told her about the baby, what happens when you have them, etc? If your focus isn't entirely on her she'll pick up on it and act out to get attention. Reassure her, prepare her, support her

I have a DD also 20 momths, not pregnant, nothing has changed in her life but now absolutely everything is a battle. If she doesnt want to do something she absolutely loses her shit, big fan instant tears. its HARD but i am assured gets better!

Yes lots of books and stories and chats about the baby. I keep telling her, how much I love her and how baby brother can’t wait to meet her and she will be the best big sister ever. Our focus is totally on her. I also feel like she doesn’t really understand, but perhaps that’s the source of frustration.

@Butteryflakycrust83 at least I’m not alone! I just feel like her temperament has totally changed!

It’s the age, it’s totally normal and I think you just have to ride it out. No one says you have to love every minute of parenting! Tbh I suspect she’s also too young to really get what having a sibling will mean so I think you can rule out that being a factor. (Although after the birth could be different of course.) Our 20mo is the same.