I cry everyday

[Dancingonmyownagain]

Sat feeding my baby and crying. My toddler is screaming in his cot. I just want to go to bed.

Being a parent is so fucking hard.

Sending virtual hugs.
I only have a toddler and find it exhausting, so I have the biggest of respect for you
No advice but I have been told it gets easier as they get older.

It's so hard. It gets easier, hard in different ways, it easier than feeding and having the crying toddler too.

That doesn't help you now, but be kind to yourself, cry if you need. Have some nice food this evening if you can. Hope you have a supportive partner, friends or family close by.

I'm the exact same...baby just gone to bed (for now) then two more children to get to bed and then another night getting up every hour with the baby, I'm at the end of what I can cope with so I know how you feel

I had this yesterday, baby was so unsettled and cried most of the day, my partner was at work and didn't know what to do with her (new mum) so I just say and cried with her! it's so much harder than we could ever imagine but you do the best you can! You're not alone and that's all we have to remember!

It will get easier op. In two years time you'll be sitting in your kitchen with a coffee whilst they play upstairs together (and you ignore the bangs).

I've been there with a baby and toddler and it really, really does get better x

I hear you. Exact same boat here but with a toddler who literally refuses to sleep and has constant foul moods. Hard, hard going. Sending love, OP.

I feel your pain, toddler and 10 month old both constantly wanting my attention. Toddler has constant meltdowns with no patience and will not share a thing so they just end up fighting ! I have also cried on many occasions.

OP I hope you are ok. Your post is very brief so we can’t tell too much but are you talking to anyone in real life? Are you eating and sleeping? How is your mood and motivation?
I am wondering about PND.

Thanks for the support and love.

I’m so grateful for my babies but I just feel so lonely and like no one in the world feels like this about being a parent. My children deserve a great mum and I just don’t know how to be that person

Thanks again for the support.

You’re in the trenches. It gets easier, I promise.

Gosh I felt like this all day after parenting a 7, 5, 2 and 4 week old. Older 2 have been bickering and fighting all day. Toddler just wants my constant attention and the baby just wants the boob all day. And then DH came home from work complaining how hard a day he's had.. delivering in his truck alone.. I could have screamed. Hopefully tomorrow will be better. Trying to think of something to do with them...

Believe me, other people definitely feel this way about being a parent! Unfortunately I don't think anything can prepare you for how difficult it can be at times. Good job these babies and toddlers have ways of redeeming themselves.

I hope you have some other "mum friends" you can rant to IRL?

It can be very hard at that stage.

I just wanted to remind you that if those thoughts become slightly more negative that you can call your GP and talk to them and get some help, someone to listen. I had PPD after no3 and it really helped just to talk to someone, being open about the silly or not so silly things that upset you. It can be more comfortable to talk to a stranger rather than someone too close.

Best of luck

Btw, try toy rotation. Divide the toys into 4/5 bags (you can leave some basic ones out all the time) and then just drop one bag in the play area/living room/wtv in the morning. The toddler will be much more excited to play with the toys :)

I know exactly how you feel. I was there a few months ago. My GP put me on antidepressants and they have really taken the edge off. It's still bloody hard and awful some days but I no longer cry or feel like I want to go to sleep and never wake up stay there for the next few years days.

People assure me it will get better. Really hope so

How old are they OP?

They are 6 months and 2. I have a husband (who’s pretty good at sharing some of the load to be honest) but he’s away with work at the moment. We’ve got a lot of other stuff going on too, so I don’t like to let him know quite how shit I’m finding everything. I do have a couple of friends but, again, I don’t want to burden them. Or to scare them away by moaning every time I see them.

I don’t know, maybe speaking to someone professional would help. I’m scared of getting a PND diagnosis, Im not sure why.

I really appreciate the time you’ve all taken to reply and be supportive, and I’m sorry that some of you are finding it hard going too.

I “only” had one child I found it SO difficult I didn’t have any more - I hope you can find family to help you out a bit?

I have a 2 year old and 6 month old too op and it can be so hard sometimes!
I find just getting my 2 year old outside can help as it gives him a chance to blow off some steam, if you have a garden I’d definitely take him out even though it’s cold, I gave him an umbrella to play in the rain while I sat in the doorway with the baby and he loved it!
We also do watch too much tv but some days it’s needed!
Sending hugs though op as it can be so difficult, I had a little cry when my husband got home from work yesterday so having yours work away must be even harder
You’re doing a great job though as it’s non stop at this age! X