Introverted parents with outgoing kids

[Ridingforthekids]

Hello,

I've got an almost 5 yo DD. She is extremely outgoing and sociable. Whenever we go to a playground she always finds children to play with and sometimes, after a chat with the parents, we exchange numbers and then there is a request for play dates. Plus she has a few friends from school.

I can't cope with her social life because I'm an introvert. I need time to myself and I find the small talk exhausting. No disrespect to the parents, they are all really lovely. It's just me.

Anyone can relate? Any tips or suggestions?

I think it’s a bit sad you’re cutting back on play dates, OP. It is part of our job as parents to help facilitate our kids’ social lives, at least when they’re little and can’t do it for themselves

I know exactly what you mean and I'm happy for her to have a few during holidays when she doesn't see her friends at school or her clubs, but she's got so many activities during term time. Plus she is the kind of child who goes to a playground by herself and always find kids to play with. And there is no pressure to meet them again if we don't want to, so much easier.

"Thank you for the invite, DD would love that. I actually have a few bits to do and I think DD would be happy alone - are you okay if I drop her and pick her up later?" or "Would Penelope like to come to ours for a playdate next week? DD has a few new dolls she's keen to show her. If she's happy to stay without you, we'd be very happy to have her and perhaps you can get some time for a quiet childfree coffee ."
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Or my preferred version which is "Lovely, what time shall I pick her up?" ^

Try and build up to playdates where you /the other parents don't stay. It might take a while as some people don't like doing that with people they don't really know. "I need to go into town at 11, is it ok if I drop her off and pick up?" "Can x come over for a playdate?" - most parents read that as just the kid invited.

Try and find some(one?!?) parents that are fairly laid back,similar to you etc so spending time with them is not actually too bad.

Or just grin and bear doing a few here and there until she's a bit older (around 7) and the parents just drop and run anyways.