can someone please help me find my daughters myspace account

[lucyellensmum]

My DD is 17 and living with her boyfriend at his parents. I know she is spending an unhealthy amount of time online. She refuses to give me her myspace address, her bf, who is lovely, has implied she spends too much time there. She has a record of talking to strangers and im worried sick. At home she was banned from the computor due to this problem, now i cannot monitor it at all - any ideas, i only have her name to go on.

Maybe that's because she wants some privacy?

she left home to be with her boyfriend, she was practically staying with him every night anyway. He is a really nice guy and im ok with that. She does as she pleases.

Franny, i know where you are coming from, i just wasnt expecting a flaming for being worried about my daughter.

Madamez - great, supportive post that

Nothing I said was intended to be a flaming LEM, and I can understand you being worried and also sensitive about the situation

I really think you need to back off, though. It must be terribly hard. I have only got a young child so haven't been in your situation - have however been a teenager with prying parents, and will never forgive the breaches of trust and invasions of my privacy

Its hard to let go, I see where you're coming from, LEM, but I would say you have to take a step back re the myspace thing. That isn't the answer.

x posted with f&Z

even if you do find her myspace page, you will not be able to see her private messages.

Sorry, i am just sensitive about this, anyone who knows me on here will see i hardly post about DD1. We dont have a great relationship anyway, so it is something i am like a disgruntled rotweiller about. Strangely our relationship has improved since she "moved out".

I have had to take a massive step back and watch her drop out of college and give up her job, its like watching history repeating itself - she has so much going for her and i am helpless but to sit back and watch her fuck her life up. I had some lucky breaks (having her was the luckiest) and managed to sort my life out, i can just pray that she gets hers sorted out too.

I was watching panorama about the internet grooming and just got really upset about it. I know she would be vulnerable as she has been in a similar situation in the past, her and her friends posted loads of shite about her on a website which gave her personal details to all and sundry, not great.

I saw that panorama a minute ago too, fortunately a lot of it was worse case scenario.

I don't think anyone was trying to get at you either LEM, if you really want to find her page that badly I'd help you, it's just it really wouldn't help, at the most all you could see would be comments and I doubt anything private would be left as a comment.

i have just spoken to her on the phone and asked her if she saw the program. She swore she has her profile on private and only speaks to her friends - im not sure i believe her, she tells a lot of lies, very well, but i have no choice i guess. I just told her to please be careful.