Nervous even making this post, but looking for genuine advice from others who have lived experience.
As a child I was sexually abused my a family member (another slightly older child). In my teenage years I declared to a therapist, and made a police report made. Social services were involved briefly, but my parents at the time made me write a letter saying I forgave the perpetrator, and due to the perpetrator being underage, no legal action was taken. Shortly there after we moved countries (the move was already planned) so nothing was really done in terms of Social Services and I remained with family and the perpetrator basically didn't face any repercussions. Its been something that has never been discussed since in the family, and the perpetrator is still someone I am forced to see at family events, but does not live close by, and I ignore as much as possible.
I'm currently pregnant, and want to know how I can protect my child. I try to avoid the perpetrator for my own reasons already, but there is a lot of family pressure to attend events that the perpetrator will also be attending. I obviously plan to keep my child away from them as much as is possible, but I know there will be expectations that I attend family events with child, that the perpetrator will also be at.
Really appreciate any advice from others who have been in similar situations.