Teen son has ZERO interests in anything

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I don't know why but it's making me sooooo angry, I get so so wound up with my 16yo
He just has no interest in anything at all.
He's a lovely boy, he's fine at school as far as I know. So I'm sure I shouldn't be worried
But what on earth will he put on an application form for uni or whatever.

He doesn't seem anxious or depressed, my DH and I both have hobbies so he sees us enjoying things.
We spent a fortune (don't) at xmas last year on a gaming computer as he loved doing 3D modelling, but that lasted 3 weeks (he used to use my computer, so thought he'd enjoy his own)
Anything we have bought he's not interested. We bought an electronic drum kit 4 yrs ago - didn't get to grade 2
He started D of E , but didn't bother finishing.
he has no picture or photos up in his room.
he doesn't support a sports team (we aren't a football family at all)

Literally nothing. Nothing to say for himself or show an interest in.

Maybe it doesn't matter? but I find it sad.
Maybe it's my issue not his?
Or how can I help him find an interest

I know it's been hard for them over the last 2 years, but all he does is snap at his younger brother and treats him like a PITA
Would love any advice

What does he do when he’s not at school?

I wouldn’t worry about what to put on applications for uni etc. I found that from about 17ish, son started thinking more about what he’s going to do later and started working more (ever so slightly more!) to get the qualifications he needs.

It doesn't matter, he'll find his way. He definitely won't appreciate his parents suggesting he do things he's not interested in. 16 is young

Is he in Year 11/12?
I would say the opposite to other OPs - he does need sth to put on his CV - what are his plans ?

He sounds great to me, he’s doing well at school, a lovely boy. I have two DS’ 20 & 19, they chose to socialise on SM, with a gaming PC your DS will have lots of opportunities to socialise. I wouldn’t worry, life is very different now to when we grew up. As long as he doesn’t seem depressed I would let him get on with it tbh.

This sounds so much like my son. He’s always been an absolute star pupil at school and a fantastic son. He’s never been stroppy or bad tempered but I always worried because he never (and I mean NEVER) went out anywhere or had any interests. He wasn’t into sport, music, movies, tv ...anything really. And yet he never seemed bored or at a loose end.
Getting a part time job really was the making of him. He got his lifeguard qualification and got a job in a local health club. He’s made lots of friends, has really grown in confidence and enjoys using the pool and gym at the club. He’s also turned 18, got his id and enjoys partying!
As long as your son seems happy enough then I really think you should stop worrying. Like a pp said, he’ll find his way.
I’m so proud of my son. He’s acing everything at school, has got a bit of a social life and is an amazing young man. I wish I could have known a few years ago that he just needed to grow up a little bit.

Watching with interest. My DS14 is exactly the same.

Can he get a job? DS got a part-time in hospitality at 16, and many of his peers work too

Does he have friends?

Is he happy?

I don’t have any particular hobbies but have a happy life

Thank you - I think I will ask if he wants a job over the summer - perhaps that will help. appreciate the comments

He might be able to get a job at weekends if you want him to get some motivation now.