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DH criticising parenting this evening

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Sunsetred · 30/03/2022 19:35

Just wondering if I'm out my mind. I picked up my DD from the childminder and when we got home I decided to walk with DD to the nearby Tesco to pick up some lemons (very specific but mentioned to emphasise we weren't wondering around Tesco for ages). The Tesco is 0.2 miles from our home and DD is almost 2. She walked there and back, no problem. She loves walking. When we got home my DH complained that I let her walk too far and that I made her too tired. I got the lemons to make my DD and myself some hot water, lemon and honey (she has a runny nose). He then complained that it wasn't appropriate for DD. In the meantime, he's offering her ice cream and Peppa pig on the iPad. I'm really annoyed that he has the nerve to criticise me like I'm an incompetent mother but did I let her walk too far and was the lemon drink a bad idea?

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Comedycook · 30/03/2022 19:38

Storm in a teacup imo

Personally I wouldn't have walked with a toddler to buy just lemons if they had a cold...I think some rest will be more beneficial than a lemon drink.

However, it's not the end of the world that you did

user1498572889 · 30/03/2022 19:38

He is being a twat. If she didn’t want to walk she would have demanded a pick up.

Drywhitefruitycidergin · 30/03/2022 19:40

I've never met a 2 year old that walked if they didn't want to......sitting protest/clinging on to be carried/whining.
It's him not you OP.
Have you asked him what he thinks is superior about PP & ice cream??

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rarabi · 30/03/2022 19:40

Absolutely not a bad idea imo, got her some fresh air and exercise which will help her as she'll sleep better! And the lemon drinks a lovely idea. Much better than ice cream when she has a cold. Ignore him!

thistimelastweek · 30/03/2022 19:46

OP, don't let him undermine you, trust your own judgement.

You don't need us to confirm you did no wrong, tell him to fuck off and stop with the backseat parenting.

ClemDanFango · 30/03/2022 19:49

YANBU fresh air and exercise is good for her. I have no idea if lemon is actually good for colds or not but it certainly wouldn’t hurt her. Your DH is BU and knob.

Jk987 · 30/03/2022 20:02

Yep, walking is brilliant and will help her sleep. It wasn't far! Keep doing what you're doing.

WutheredOut · 30/03/2022 20:04

Fresh air, exercise and vitamin c …. Yeah I totally see how peppa pig and ice cream would be better for her!

Midlifemusings · 30/03/2022 20:08

I guess it depends how sick she is. If she is so sick she needs a hot lemon drink to breathe then I wouldn't have her walk to the store. Rest would be better for her.

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Sunsetred · 30/03/2022 20:31

Thanks everyone, your comments make me feel better. She's not that unwell, she is in good spirits and eating and drinking normally. Maybe we didn't have to walk to the shop but she kept saying 'walk walk' so I thought why not. Also, I read somewhere that a walk in cold air can help with cold symptoms in young children. I don't mind being criticised but it's just frustrating sometimes!

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YRGAM · 30/03/2022 22:47

It sounds like he's never met a child before! If they don't want to walk you're going to hear about it. You haven't done anything wrong IMO. I wouldn't escalate with DH though, it will have come from the right place (worrying about his child) and he won't have been trying to undermine you.

Ozanj · 30/03/2022 22:51

Getting kids outdoors when they have a cold is always the best idea.

flyingdream · 30/03/2022 22:58

You should have offered him a lemon.

Yeah tell him some of us don't recommend an ice cream when she's got a cold. Remind him again when she's got a cough tomorrow.

Lemon and honey is fine btw. He's just being weird.

BarnacleNora · 31/03/2022 01:24

Dairy is shit for a cold. Does all sorts for mucus production. When I was doing musicals we were all avoiding milk and chocolate and chugging down hot lemon and honey. Can't see anything wrong with giving hot lemon and honey to a 2 year old if they're willing to drink it, probably is nice and soothing and gives a bit of vitamin c.

She's 2. She would absolutely have let you know if she was fed up with walking and in fact was telling you (walk walk!) that she wanted to! Plus fresh air would have blown away some cobwebs and got her nice and tired ready for bed whereas exposure to the blue light and stimulation of an iPad is not what a child needs before trying to sleep.

Your DH was worried about his child but his solution was to spoil her with the wrong stuff and to have a go at you without thinking it through

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