3 month old wakes for a cuddle?

[NewMom21]

My 3 month old is formula fed so doesn’t look for the boob for comfort! He wakes twice for feeds only which is good.

However, half an hour after I put him down after the first feed (so after feeding, changing and settling) he wakes and as soon as I pick him up he’s back asleep?! Sometimes if I put him down immediately he wakes but he just wants to be cuddled back asleep

This has happened a lot now it’s becoming a bit of a pattern. Is it normal? Will he grow out of it or have I created a bad habit?

He also has never slept in his cot past 7am and when he was tiny I’d start my day then with him but now I bring him in with us doing the safe C position because he’d be overtired if I did that and he then sleeps another 2 hours?!

Is this also normal it’s like he knows certain times he’s always not slept in his bedside cot past 7am

Yes it’s very normal! In fact everything a baby does is based on their natural instincts only. They don’t know time or how to manipulate. At Every opportunity he is going to want to be cuddled by his mom. All infants of every mammal does. In fact humans are the only mammals that put their baby far away from them to sleep.

It’s exhausting but he will grow out of it and as he becomes older you can make a choice to sleep train, co-sleep and develop good routines. My son is 12 months now and sleeps through. They are only little for a short period. Don’t sweat it.

That's all completly normal, making your baby feel safe isn't creating a bad habit don't worry, he will absolutely will grow out of it. Enjoy your cuddles and the safer they feel now the more secure they feel the more confidence they feel that all is good.

Thank you. I think I’ve just felt bad because twice in a week I’ve fell asleep with him on my chest for like an hour whilst settling him and I’ve felt so guilty :(

I’m lucky I haven’t rolled over but the guilt filled me up I haven’t meant to do it and it’s made me so paranoid and now I’m thinking I need to train it out of him asap as I’m tired while comforting him and scared I’ll do it again

A lot of moms fall asleep with baby on chest. I know its not advisable but it’s the reality. The chances of cot death are still very very small and risks increase when you have been drinking or taking medication so be aware. For the first 12 weeks my baby slept on my chest and many of my friends too.
In many cultures they still co sleep. Read up a about it and do it safely but don’t feel guilty or deprive your baby of what they need due to fear

He's a baby. Please cuddle him when he asks for one.

It's not an easy time, I know

Can you perhaps look into safe co sleeping and see if that's something that could work for your family.

its fine for baby to sleep on your chest. Ds1 would only sleep on my chest for months. Fond memories now hes a hulking great man.
We are only mammals, and all mammals young want to sleep with their mother.

Try not picking up but stroking him and a few words of comfort.

Absolutely normal. My little guy used to do it sometimes just at random times. A quick cuddle and he was asleep again. He suddenly just stopped so don't worry about creating "bad habits". My baby contact napped for the first 6 months of his life, was rocked to sleep, feed to sleep and patted to sleep😂 he's now 9 months and i plonk him in his cot and leave he rolls around,shouts and claps then goes to sleep . A saying that I herd that stuck with me was "to teach your baby to be independent you have to let them be dependent" enjoy your cuddles!