Overwhelmed

[Se1401]

Hi I’m new here.. mum of 2 boys (8) + (2).
I work 35 hours a week and recently I’ve really started to feel trapped. My partner works all the time and whenever he’s not working he’s at football. He travels Europe watching his team and he’s got 5 different matches scheduled for April both here/Scotland and Portugal.
I don’t get any time to myself, I just feel like I live my life around everyone else and just exist to make other peoples life easier.
I adore my boys but I’d like to be able to have a little bit of freedom.. due to my partners work I can’t even schedule a gym class or a meal with friends as we never know where he will be!
I’ve tried talking to him but he doesn’t seem to get it, just said it’s not his fault

I'm sorry OP, this is shitty behaviour by your husband. "Not his fault"? That's a very strange response. Is he forced to follow his football team around Europe?

Assuming this (presumably very expensive?) hobby is entirely voluntary, I'd book yourself a few weekends away/days/evenings out, put them on his calender and take your break. You aren't a servant, and your purpose is not to make other people's lives easier. And if your husband is able to plan his own leisure time in advance and around his work commitments, you can too.

Don't ask for permission - tell him you've got plans, and reclaim some of your time.

I know this isn't a helpful comment and I'm sure your husband isnt completely useless, but I read threads like this all the time and I honestly don't know how or why women put up with it.

That’s massively shitty of him.
Can you start eve during stuff in. Then has to work around you.

I think he needs to know it can’t go on like this.

He's a CF. He can give you some time by binning off his football, if he's unwilling to do that then is he really worthy of you?

I mean...it is his fault? Just arrange something with your friends for a weekend he's not already booked football and tell him that's what's happening. Don't ask if it's ok, just tell him.

No man ever gives you time, be selfish and take it- they fucking do!