What would you honestly do?

[LouiseJo90]

Ok, so I have 2 children who I absolutely adore. However, I want to do more with my life for them. I earn an Ok wage £14k for 3 days per week, however, I am not married and feel like this leaves me vulnerable and although I would like to be optimistic, the reality is I have to protect myself and the kids if the worst happens? I could go back to work full time in a heartbeat? Am I honestly vulnerable? The thought terrifies me, however, I am honestly not fussed about marriage really just the financial side of it x

Anyone?

How does your partner feel about it? Just wondering if there is a strong reason why you arent already.
Is there something that has made you worry about your finances in particular?

What is your housing situation? Plus this isn't really a parenting question, more a relationship question. Maybe you should post on the Relationships board.

The vast majority of MN will tell you marriage offers you protections especially if you own a house together, you are working part time so your earnings and pension are being compromised whilst your partner is no doubt working full time and paying into their pension pot. These are the things that leave you vulnerable. But like I said, post on the relationships board.

The question is why are you worried now? What has changed for you?

Sorry, I meant to @ you. @LouiseJo90

I personally would think about getting married.
life is so unpredictable, my husband died very suddenly, being married meant l was better protected financially than if l hadn' t have been.
I would also ensure you both have adequate life insurance, and a will in place.
Because if the worst should happen the last thing you need is further stress and worry about how you will manage financially, and what you are entitled to.

I absolutely have the opportunity to go full time in a heart beat. Plus his life insurance I am down as a next of kin…we had a row the other day and it made me think about my options if the worst happened. Never doubted that until now if I’m honest. I don’t know if I feel the same anymore to be honest.