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Whining toddler, crying baby, shattered nother

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BingBangB0ng · 29/03/2022 08:01

My 3 month old son is especially fussy today, my 2.5 year old didn’t sleep enough last night and is especially quick to get frustrated and whine or scream. We’ve all got covid, though the kids haven’t been too bad with it. I’m not getting good sleep at all.

When I’m trying to settle the baby and she starts whining and screaming at me, I find myself losing my temper. I’ve not full on shouted at her but I’ve sounded angry in a way I don’t want to, and which doesn’t help the situation at all. Objectively I know she’s feeling tired and a bit off, she’s competing with the baby for attention and this is just what toddlers do. But when I hear it I feel the blood boil, I get angry at her that I have to take a break from focusing on the younger one, so inevitably her crying picks up again and I feel guilty about her being neglected. I feel guilty about not being good enough for either of them.

Does anyone have any tips? Practical tips, but also just advice for trying to keep my cool.

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MollyRover · 29/03/2022 08:38

Where's DH, is he not able to help?

BingBangB0ng · 29/03/2022 08:45

When he’s not working, we divide and conquer, but he works long hours and had a 7.45am call with someone in a different timezone this morning.

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Reluctantadult · 29/03/2022 08:47

My advice is coffee, TV, and cut yourself some slack until you're over this hump.

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Reluctantadult · 29/03/2022 08:49

When mine were the age your toddler is I swore by a long bath in the middle of the day! Lots of bubbles, jugs and spoons. Stay in as long as they like.

GregBrawlsInDogJail · 29/03/2022 08:52

You're not a bad mother, you're just at the end of your tether with a body that is badly depleted screaming at you to get some rest, but responsibilities that won't allow it.

Cut yourself some slack, drop your standards as much as you can, take deep breaths, and hang in there. If you get a bit shoutier than you'd like, forgive yourself, say sorry to the kids, and keep going. We've all been there.

Fieldings15 · 29/03/2022 08:55

TV time for the toddler? I also have a baby and toddler and though I try to limit TV normally when the toddler or I am Ill there’s definitely much more TV time! It’s really tough, hope you all get better soon.

miltonj · 29/03/2022 08:55

@Reluctantadult

When mine were the age your toddler is I swore by a long bath in the middle of the day! Lots of bubbles, jugs and spoons. Stay in as long as they like.
I'm feeling similar to the OP. Pregnant, really quite poorly and overtired toddler. I'm taking your advice today.... thank you!!
MollyRover · 29/03/2022 09:08

Great advice re the bath. Do that, then all settle down on the couch with blankets and clean PJs with a movie- bonus points for junk food. I like cooking/baking something to enjoy with it but that is strictly energy permitting!! Food delivery is made for situations like this. Most important thing is to take it as easy as possible. Say yes to everything if you need to. Best of luck OP X

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