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Should i try again after horrific pregnancy

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Nootssss · 29/03/2022 01:33

Hey. First Post. In a nutshell i had my daughter at 33 and had a host of issues during pregnancy. I developed pericarditis with effusion which was fluid on my heart. I had pluresy... Sepsis.. Pneumonia... All related to the issues with my heart. The doctors never knew what flared it. It did go away but i faced my mortality when i was about 28 weeks. I thought we'd both die. My cardiologist said i CAN try again it MAY Not happen and I would be intensely monitored but i am scared. She is 4 in October and i have just turned 37. My implant runs out in September and i am so torn between not having another and just going for it. Also... Aside from the terrible experience i had i also have qualms about being an older mum. Don't know fully why... I just hoped i would have had my kids earlier. I know there is more risks associated. Bit of a ramble but keen to hear from other mums who've for one had difficult pregnancies and gone on to have more. And two older mums 35+ if i tried again end of the year.... Id likely be 39 when baby was born if i caught easily. Thanks for reading. I appreciate it

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Chely · 29/03/2022 09:45

Only you can say if the urge for another is stronger than your fear of a repeat experience.
I had our youngest at 37 and not ruled out more yet so I think age wise you are fine. If it were me, I'd probably take the risk in the hope the doctors are right that it's not guaranteed to happen again.

Daqqe · 29/03/2022 14:02

I didn’t have quite your level of scary pregnancy but I have had two very poorly hyperemesis pregnancies. I was violently sick 40+ times a day. My first was actually milder. I ended up in hospital about 8/9 times, for fluids, monitoring & anti-sickness injections. A combination of 3x anti sickness drugs stopped the vomiting around 20 weeks. I lost nearly 2 stone during that time..

DD2 was worse. I spent over half my pregnancy in hospital, struggled to find a drug combo that worked. Ended up on steroids. I honestly thought I was going to die. I tore my stomach lining from vomiting & was just vomiting blood for a while. I was so so scared & heartbroken knowing I had a toddler at home who I wasn’t able to parent. But we got through it.

Would I have another? 100% no. But I have two now. I did go for it to have a second as I felt strongly I wanted another child. If my second has been my first, I’m not overly sure I’d have two kids now..

mydogisthebest · 29/03/2022 14:08

No way would I even think about it. Far too many negatives

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