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Does this sound autism

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Lemebe · 28/03/2022 21:39

Hello there, my post is going to be long but I request please read and share your experiences you have or had.
My Son is 21 months old now. Has very good eye contact , he reached all his milestones on time like he started walking in 11 month and talking as soon as he reached 1 year. He talks alot now he even says 2-3 words together . Responses to his name 80% of the time. Point out the things but can not with only one finger as he might not know how to fold other 4 fingers when pointing things .
Now My concerns are
He is obsessed about shapes, colours and planets( he knows whole solar system) .
He keeps saying the same word for 20 times( like if says Saturn he will be keep saying it until I divert his mind)
He stacks toys , utensils even grasses if we are out at garden
He has problem eating, can not chew food that’s why he is still on mashed food.
He has problem touching food ( either wet or dry), paint, dough or anything is wet.
He does not like hugging longer and has never kissed me or his dad. If I try to kiss him he says done.( but he likes to be held )
He is scared of slides
He does not like to play with other kids ( he can get along with adult though).
Opens and closes his fingers
Otherwise he is a happy kid loves bath , doesn’t mind brushing teeth . He understands when I am angry. Understand when I say something like I say go sit on the sofa or bring your shoes and he does .He can sing almost all the rhymes , loves reading books . He can go up and down to the stairs.
I am really worried please need suggestions and please please let me know if you know any kid like this who got better with the time .

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Fritilleries · 28/03/2022 21:41

Contact your health visitor

Landlubber2019 · 28/03/2022 21:45

It's difficult to say but try to focus on what he can do rather than can't. It might be worth looking at books and researching parenting strategies, if he does have autism it's not something that can be fixed and as a parent you will learn to adapt to face any challenges so doing some research will help irrespective of whether he has autism or not .

ididntevennotice · 28/03/2022 21:51

Which bit do you think is a sign of autism? The majority of those things sound absolutely normal. I would presume you have already spoken to someone about the eating problem?

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Lemebe · 28/03/2022 22:59

Thank you yes I had an appointment with health visitor but I am sorry to say she wasn’t very helpful so we have booked another appointment with paediatrician which is on 24th April .

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ididntevennotice · 28/03/2022 23:04

Did the GP refer you to the paediatrician because of the eating?

Lemebe · 28/03/2022 23:05

Thank you for your message I know it’s hard to say yet , but how I am gonna accept that if it is , I am scared , I feel like crying every time I look at him .

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RoseslnTheHospital · 28/03/2022 23:10

A label doesn't change your child. He will still be himself just as he is now, if you get an official diagnosis of any particular condition or not. Try not to worry too much about future possibilities and concentrate on the things you love about your son.

ididntevennotice · 28/03/2022 23:11

@Lemebe

Thank you for your message I know it’s hard to say yet , but how I am gonna accept that if it is , I am scared , I feel like crying every time I look at him .

I really think you need to take a step back and enjoy your child tbh. Most of what you say is very very normal developmentally.

Lemebe · 28/03/2022 23:13

ididntevennotice
Thank you so much , your words giving me positive energy . I hope he is normal as you are saying. I don’t know every time I read in Google or watch any videos they say these are autism signs and that is freaking me out now .Yes he has been referred to the speech therapist for eating problem and they said because he can not touch the food that’s why he is not eating, otherwise he has no problem . They booked another appointment with paediatric So we are waiting for his next appointment again . I am sorry my English writing is not very well, I always mention this every time I post something .

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mistermagpie · 28/03/2022 23:15

The chewing thing is the only really unusual thing that you have mentioned for his age, and I don't even know if that is associated with autism.

It sounds like you are scrutinising everything very closely but he sounds pretty normal to me, and actually quite advanced in some areas (I have a similar aged child and two older ones too). As far as I know you wouldn't get an assessment for autism this young, so beyond contacting the HV there's not much you can do at this stage, other than what you are doing. But I would try not to worry, it won't change anything and might prevent you enjoying watching your child develop and grow.

Lemebe · 28/03/2022 23:17

ididntevennotice
Yes actually we had an appointment with health visitor and then she referred to my son to the speech therapist for the eating problem and now speech therapist says there is no problem she sees in swallowing or so that’s why she referred me to the paediatric now.

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DaisyStPatience · 28/03/2022 23:18

Why are you so repulsed by the thought of your son being autistic? I'm autistic and I have a pretty good life. Same goes for many other neurodivergent people. We aren't foul beasts who need shunning like the Hunchback of Notre Dame.

Hugasauras · 28/03/2022 23:19

It's hard to say. Some stuff could just be random toddler stuff or it could be the sign of something else going on, not necessarily autism though. 'Normal' behaviour for toddlers encompasses a huge range of stuff!

Lemebe · 28/03/2022 23:22

mistermagpie
Thank you so much for your time . As you have said you have same age child , I am sorry to ask does she or he do anything like I have mentioned above like repeating words, getting obsessed about some words or shapes and also like wheels and spinning things? I am trying to be calm but I don’t know I am thinking too much about it .

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WildCoasts · 28/03/2022 23:22

@DaisyStPatience

Why are you so repulsed by the thought of your son being autistic? I'm autistic and I have a pretty good life. Same goes for many other neurodivergent people. We aren't foul beasts who need shunning like the Hunchback of Notre Dame.
A lot of people don't understand autism, just a stereotype. It does bring challenges but it also has strengths.
Meltinthemiddle · 28/03/2022 23:23

I would be concerned about his eating but if he seems to be hitting most of his mileatones and no extreme meltdowns then most seems quite normal. Does he go to toddler groups or nursery? Do you have autism in the family?

Lemebe · 29/03/2022 13:57

DaisyStPatience
Hi there I am sorry I didn’t mean to hurt anyone’s emotions. I totally agree with you, many people with autism doing really well and I am glad you are one of them. But unfortunately have seen some in bad conditions too. I am sorry again if my post is harsh I just wanted to share my concerns and wanted to know other mums opening and experience. Thank you

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Lemebe · 29/03/2022 14:04

Meltinthemiddle
Yes he goes to the nursery part time and we don’t have autism in our family. In fact I have never heard about it until I came to this country . No meltdown but he has started waking up in the night 2-3 times and just cry mama mama ( used to sleep without any waking) thank you.
I am sorry my English isn’t very good 🤭🤭

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Mumof3bb1 · 28/06/2024 17:47

Hi how is your son now?

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