Staying at Grandparents

[amidsummernightsdream]

My LO will be 1 in April. She goes to CM 2 days a week but apart from the odd couple of hours where DGP’s have come to our house to look after her while we work/ get jobs done, she hasn’t really been away from us.
No particular reason, just the way things have been.
Recently my DM who lives an hour away has been more keen for her to stay over for the night. Bought her a cot etc to stay at hers.

I’m very up for this as tbh I really need a brake. My LO is the easiest baby and I love being with her but some one on one time with my husband would be most welcome.
So all great!
Except I can’t seem to go ahead and make arrangements for this to happen, something is holding me back.
What does a 1 year old think when her mum suddenly leaves her for that long?
Ok she goes to the childminder (which she loves!) but she doesnt see my mum nearly as often and i worry she wouldn’t feel secure.
She isnt that familiar with my mums house and I’m worried it might be too much. It usually takes her a while to come round when we visit.
Are these valid concerns? Or is this more of an issue with my worries rather than how it will effect LO?
Is it better to wait until she is older and understands what’s happening?
And if we do go ahead any tips on making it go smoothly?

Can you spend more time visiting your mum's so she's more familiar? A few weeks ago DS got his bag out and started planning a few things in it, I asked what he was doing and he said he was ready for a little holiday to Grandma and grandad's! He had had a busy week.... The first few times we left DS over night (also over a year) grandparents came to us, would your mum do that? We stayed elsewhere, once was a wedding and the other was for DH s birthday and we stayed away in a hotel overnight

That’s so lovely, I would like her to have this relationship with her grandparents too. My grandma was so special to me.

I think we could see my mum more and that is probably the answer. We aren’t super close and she isn’t always the easiest to get along with but she means well and is a great grandma.

I could also ask her to stay here but we don’t really have the set up and also as she has bought the cot etc, i think she is really wanting to have her stay at hers, but something to think about

Is there space for you to have a night where you stay over with her, so she has an experience of doing it with you there? That’s what we did when we were preparing to have my little one stay at her grandparents for the first time