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Am I being unreasonable

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ljdxx · 26/03/2022 15:30

So I have a beautiful baby boy 19weeks old my first, I absolutely adore him! I live with my fiancé this is our first baby together, he already has two with a previous relationship. We have them every weekend without fail, but with it being Mother's Day this weekend my partner has given the mother a choice to keep them which she happily agreed.

So me thinking it's Mother's Day weekend we will be doing something special however, my fiancé got up this morning was with us for a hour or two and decided he was going out for dinner with his friends and a "couple" of beers. He's done this when I was pregnant and didn't come back till the early hours so I'm expecting the same.

Am I being unreasonable by saying I thought this weekend was about me and my baby? And that we should be doing all together, I mean if we had his other kids he wouldn't be going out and we would all be doing something together. I feel like we have been pushed aside. I know he works all week and he's entitled to beers with his mates but I feel like this is a very special weekend with it being my first Mother's Day.

I feel like he should want to take me out and the baby, we haven't been out as a 3 for ages?

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VyeBrator · 26/03/2022 15:32

Mother's Day is tomorrow, it's not a whole weekend.

What are you both doing for your own mothers? Is he planning to include you in that?

muckandnettles · 26/03/2022 16:22

It seems mean of him to think right weekend free from my 2 kids, so enjoy myself like a single man. You are right to want some quality time just the 3 of you for a change and he clearly is not thinking how this is for you. I hope he is more considerate tomorrow.

TidyDancer · 26/03/2022 16:29

Mother's Day isn't a weekend, is there a reason you're worrying about this in advance?

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EV117 · 26/03/2022 16:59

Mother’s Day is tomorrow. It’s not a ‘weekend’. I feel there’s more to this.

NerrSnerr · 26/03/2022 17:02

It's Mother's Day tomorrow. I wonder if he'd be ok with you going out for dinner and a couple of beers next weekend leaving the baby with him? Would he be happy with that?

TibetanTerrah · 26/03/2022 17:07

I think OP means he'll be useless and hungover tomorrow, probably grumpy with nothing nice, however small, planned for her first Mother's day.

User020367 · 26/03/2022 18:04

Mother’s Day is tomorrow hopefully he’s planned something nice for you

ukborn · 26/03/2022 18:25

The most we do on Mother's day is breakfast in bed or a lunch out. I think you are expecting a bit too much here.
But if your husband is hung over tomorrow why not take your baby to see YOUR mum to celebrate?

VashtaNerada · 26/03/2022 18:29

I hope it all goes well tomorrow. I wouldn’t be bothered about today unless it does end up ruining tomorrow. (That said, either way enjoy some time with your little boy. And you can look forward to future Mothers’ Days when he’s old enough to make you a card because that really is lovely!)

Turningpurple · 26/03/2022 18:37

Mothers day hasn't started yet.

But does he often just announce he us going our and nor let you know of plans in advance?

MintJulia · 26/03/2022 18:59

Mother's Day usually involves breakfast in bed (if you're lucky) and lunch. Don't you think it's a bit soon to be worrying?

If you don't think he'll deliver, nip out now, buy the ingredients for your favourite brunch, and then you can point him at the kitchen in the morning.

Or book a table somewhere lovely, and tell him....! It's good to be organised.

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