I live with my husband and 2 children. My oldest son is 11 and has severe learning disabilities. His behaviour is very challenging and has put a huge strain on us.
Anyway the issue I wanted to talk about is my Mother in law. She is very critical of both myself and my husband in general. She always makes snide comments about my husband and myself behind my back. She just thinks she can go up my stair and snoop about every room in the house and criticise and mess. My house is immaculate and I take a lot of pride in it. However a couple of things lying about decends in snide comments. Both myself and my husband are really sick of it. I would rather she didn't come round. She stresses me out.
I care more about looking after my kids happiness and spending time with them over putting a basket of washing away or making sure my wee girls room is immaculate with hardly anything to play with.
She seems to think that love and support to her only 2 Gran children is buying them stuff they don't need. She never did anything with her own kids growing up never even took them to a park.
Our 11 year old son is a lovely child but his behaviour is challenging. She never looks after my kids or spends quality time with them not even my neurotypical daughter. They crave spending time with them but they make excuses.
In a nut shell I'm really hacked off with her and don't want her coming to my house. I only let them for the kids sake.
How do I tell her I'm sick of her crap without completely falling out with her?