Hi,
I have had to post on here as I am so fed up with my mother in law. It’s a long story but here goes..
MIL used to have my eldest for two days a week while I went to work. However when I came back off maternity leave after having my second child she was unavailable to have my children due to having my sister in law’s child. I was a bit hurt but let this go, we were lucky to have her in the first place and it’s our responsibility to find childcare for our children.
Anyway she now very rarely sees our children, only when I ask if they can come and see her. She lives close and often sees them playing out but doesn’t come out to say hello unless they knock on the door. Her other grandchild is still there two days a week even when her parents aren’t working. On the odd occasion I ask her to have one of mine for an hour she’s always got plans, so I have stopped asking.
I recently had a miscarriage and she has never once asked how I am or if I need anything.
Recently, my eldest daughter has had chicken pox, and she hasn’t text or asked how she is, or if I need anything.
She knows my husband works long hours and I often struggle when one of the children is poorly with getting the other to school.
When she had covid I asked several times how she was and went to the shops for her.
Whenever she does see the children she posts on social media and makes hers out to be a doting Grandma.
My husband says ignore it, we don’t need her! But it really annoys me and I feel so sorry for my children when they ask why they can’t go to Grandma’s when their cousin always goes.
Anyone think I am being unreasonable to think she should make more effort?
Has anyone been in this situation and what can I do?
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