I have a 5 year old DD and a very nearly 2 year old DS. My older DD is very loving and sweet with her brother - she is a bit of a mother hen and loves to play with him. He adores and looks up to her, and on the whole they do play together nicely. However, he is now hitting the terrible twos! She will be playing with something and he tries to snatch it off her. I will intervene to stop him, and then he tantrums. She will quite often then say (after she is fed up of the screaming) "Oh it's OK, I don't really want it any more, he can have it." Which is very sweet of her, but I can already see as a result he is learning to just scream at her to get his own way.
I have tried to explain to her that she is being very kind, but we don't want to just give in to screaming as we don't want to encourage it. However, I don't want to make too much of a big deal out of that as it's not her job to parent him. But equally I don't want to encourage him to just scream at her to get his own way, as I worry she will become less close with him if she's always just getting screamed at.
I do try to just distract him away from her and whatever she has that he wants, but when he can see her playing with it that's very tricky.
What's the best way to handle this? They've always had such a sweet relationship, and I don't want to lose that.