Violence in primary school

[unimagmative13]

My child is in reception, there is another child who had additional needs, I'm not aware of any diagnosis. The child gets angry and is violent, at first I just spoke to my child and tried to be sympathic as I would have thought the school need to have some time to get the help the child needs.

Over the past few weeks my child has been kicked, punched, slapped, hurt so I contacted the school.

I've also been made aware than on a few occasions the children have had to be moved from the classroom for safety reasons.

The school acknowledged that my child was being targeted, said they are monitoring things - I feel like this means waiting for something significant to happen (I maybe feel like removing 30 4 and 5 year olds from a room is significant enough?)

I really do feel for the child and their parents but what happens next?

My autistic child was the violent child aged 4. Believe me the school and parents are most likely doing everything they can but it's a long process that obviously they won't be discussing with you.
All you can do is keep raising concerns if your child is harmed.

@fairgame84

My autistic child was the violent child aged 4. Believe me the school and parents are most likely doing everything they can but it's a long process that obviously they won't be discussing with you. All you can do is keep raising concerns if your child is harmed.

I absolute get that I am not nieve to how things work.

My child is being hurt daily, my concern is really how long that goes on for.

I’m sorry but additional needs or not (my own child has asd) my child wouldn’t be going back to school until they could guarantee they won’t get hurt. I don’t send my child to school to get hurt.

@unimagmative13
Probably until they get funding for the child which could be months.
Keep raising concerns and if you're not happy go to the head teacher.
Nothing will change unless you are constantly on at them but keep the focus on what they are doing for your child and not the other child.
Is it a 2 or 3 form entry? Can your son move class?

[quote fairgame84]@unimagmative13
Probably until they get funding for the child which could be months.
Keep raising concerns and if you're not happy go to the head teacher.
Nothing will change unless you are constantly on at them but keep the focus on what they are doing for your child and not the other child.
Is it a 2 or 3 form entry? Can your son move class?[/quote]
Thank you, the child had a 121, I just think it's a member of staff not a funded 121, this is the head teacher, no its just one class. I think the school should provide a safe environment for my child before I do anything.

They also all play together, so the school thinks that's OK, I don't want to be the mum that days don't play with that child so we do alot of encouraging towards other children and talk about how friends treat each other. I really don't want my child thinking this is how friends are at school either.

At first I didn't say anything as I was trying to be sympathy and give the school some time but now it's a daily occurance I worry it could turn more serious.

Your child is entitled to be safe at school so just keep pushing and complaining. Schools tend to get complacent if they think other parents aren't bothered. Some schools are better than others.
Its difficult if they are playing nicely then suddenly the other child lashes out as they might be unpredictable but a 121 should be supervising play and if the child us struggling they might need more structured play.

If my child was being targeted like that I would remove them from the school. They would only return once I was happy that they had the other child's behaviour under control.

@AHungryCaterpillar

I’m sorry but additional needs or not (my own child has asd) my child wouldn’t be going back to school until they could guarantee they won’t get hurt. I don’t send my child to school to get hurt.

I'm starting to feel like this is coming, but then what? The other child would have to be removed before my child went back?

This is why I feel like they are just waiting for something significant to happen, although I feel throwing tables and chair is fairly significant but maybe not enough

I did this with my daughter. There was another boy in her class also with asd that started hitting her for no reason at all, the school said he was just triggered by certain children and my daughter was one of them. At first obviously I was trying to be understanding but I took her to school one day and we were by the gates walking in and the boy was there (I didn’t know who it was him) my daughter was just walking along next to me and he whacked her straight across the face completely unexpected. I told them they need to make sure he goes nowhere near my daughter otherwise she won’t be coming back. They did listen and then eventually he was moved to an sen school.

Read the school's safeguarding policy (it should be on the website) and challenge them on it.

Thank you this is a good answer

I would also be asking if they have someone in the classroom trained in team teach (physical handling) techniques so they can keep the other children safe.