4 year old in trouble at school

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I'm at a lose for what to do some I'm hoping to get some advice. My newly turned 4 year old daughter is facing expulsion from her second preschool in the last year. The first one she was asked to leave due to biting (and has since kicked the habit- not that it was all the time). This time, they say she is "out of control" most of the day and humping her bed during quiet time. Today the teacher told my husband she has never seen a child do that so much in her 30 years of teaching. I'm not even sure where she gets that from but obviously kids do it? Mine just discovered it a little early. Every day when I pick her up, bad news or negative discussion and they ruin my day. We read behavior books, talk about EVERYTHING positively, tell stories of expectations, we even took her to a doctor who said she seems like a normal 4 year old. We are waiting on a referral to have her evaluate further but at home she is smart, kind, and bossy. She is working through her emotions but likes to read, color, watch movies, etc. Like a normal kid. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. We're about to be on preschool number 3 and I'm worried it'll be the same thing over again. Help! I'm losing it.

What do they mean by out of control, any examples? If humping her bed at quiet time is causing a problem can they give her a bean bag or chair or just do one on one quiet stuff like reading books? Are they willing to work with you? It’s strange they do quiet time with beds though, my daughter is four and they haven’t had nap time at nursery since before she was three. They do have quieter periods but it’ll be all the kids sat down on a rug listening to stories. By working through her emotions do you mean tantrums and strops etc?

Yes, what are they meaning by out of control? Do you have any concerns about her behaviour at home? I haven't ever known of a child humping but then I don't work with children. It sounds really stressful for you and I hope you manage to get things sorted.

Teachers can talk crap just like parents! You child may be showing behaviours but are they actually as extreme as they are being made out to be?
It’s like a parent saying my child can recite Shakespeare but at school they can only read And, My.
Perhaps your child is copying others, seen cartoons etc. Definitely discuss in depth with the school what tje best approach is

What do you mean by 'humping' ?

What does she do that is out of control and what do you mean when you say humping the bed? Also does the nursery insist the children go to bed? That's very odd. I doubt many 4 year olds have a nap in the day or 3 year olds either. I wouldn't expect there to be a nap time at preschool. Maybe she is bored?

She might be exhibiting sensory-seeking behaviour. An OT could do an assessment for you. I doubt a GP would have considered it.