My 5 year old has always been quite sensitive & emotional .. but for the last few months her crying has been insane. She cries far far more than her toddler sister, who I expect the tantrums from.
She cries if she’s told not to do something (not told off but something like don’t touch the bottom of your shoes, they are dirty), she cries when she makes a mistake when drawing or writing, she cries when I turn the TV down a couple notches, she cries when something isn’t going exactly as she expected it or wants it go, she cries when she gets the wrong colour cup for her water.. I could go on. Its tantrum like crying, she flings herself about and wails.
I’m finding if hard to deal with. I’m very conscious I’m constantly telling her to stop crying & I don’t want to create a complex that crying is bad! But her friends have mentioned she cries a lot & school day often kids don’t want to play a game with her because she’ll throw a tantrum if she loses or it doesn’t go as she wants 💔💔 and at home, my husband & I feel like we are walking on tiptoe waiting for the next implode.
I obviously expect & fully embrace crying because she’s hurt, scared or a genuine reason like DD2 has snatched a toy or something. Lots of hugs & expressing my understanding that it’s ok to cry. But what do I do with the laying on the floor crying because her sister got a purple cup & she got a blue one. I feel like I’m pandering to silly behaviour if I do the big hug and ohh it’s ok thing. But maybe I need to get over my only annoyance at the situation?! School are being supportive & working on her resilience which is kind. She’s far worse at home though..
Just for full info - nothing has changed in her life. She has a happy, settled life with mum & dad. Little sis is 2.5. She loves school. She has some lovely friends..
I need some parenting help please!