What do you do when you need a break? I feel so guilty

[Westmidsmum1]

So my son is almost 2 and i feel so guilty for even saying this but I just need a break. I'm on my own with him literally 24/7. I don't have any friends, I have severe anxiety and ptsd so going out and socialising is a big issue for me. I don't have any family either, my parents have both passed away. I only have my partner, he works all day then just wants to go to bed when he gets in, and spends the weekends with his friends/family or gaming. Is it terrible of me to just want a little break? I feel like it is. I just need some advice or ideas please as I'm starting to struggle mentally. Thank you x

Your DP is a selfish, immature arsehole.

You would be better off without him.

@Somethingsnappy

If you break up with your partner, you will get rid of a useless waste of space, at the same time as creating a chance to have a break sometimes, while your partner has contact. Just saying...

Or most likely he won’t bother to see the kids, Like many men who don’t bother with them when they break up with their ex. He’s unlikely to suddenly just step up.

If your child is almost 2, that means you had a newborn baby during the first Covid lockdown and presumably have been parenting with little or no support since then. You are an amazing mum to have navigated all of that, and it's understandable that you are nervous about leaving him with anyone else now (my daughter was 2 last week so I get it).
You definitely need a break - it sounds like your partner has friends and family nearby, so could he look after your son for a day / half a day / a couple of hours with them to support him? i.e. He could take your son with him to visit them, have them round to your house while you go out, meet them at a farm park, playground, the library, etc.? It sounds like you will need to directly instruct him to do that (which you shouldn't have to do but focus on getting a break first).

My other half took care of our baby girl when I went back to work. He thought he'd be able to watch cricket and change a nappy occasionally! He soon learn't. He didn't take care of her the way I would have, she was very much allowed to play, free to roam in the garden etc. He would sit and watch her but he did it, and she had a great time. TBH, I have to agree with the other posting here. He's your child's father FFS and he needs to man up and stop playing games like some kid. I can understand why you'd be nervous - maybe you can ask his Mum to visit whilst you're out too - but unless you really think your child would be in danger, he needs to man up and take care of his son. I have a friend who felt similar, she would get everything organised before going anywhere which may help you not be as anxious - but seriously, imagine it being the other way around. Just ridiculous. As long as he's fed and happy, free from harm - let him be a parent and get out and have some time to yourself. Don't feel bad! We all feel the same! Good luck and take care.

@redteapot

If your child is almost 2, that means you had a newborn baby during the first Covid lockdown and presumably have been parenting with little or no support since then. You are an amazing mum to have navigated all of that, and it's understandable that you are nervous about leaving him with anyone else now (my daughter was 2 last week so I get it). You definitely need a break - it sounds like your partner has friends and family nearby, so could he look after your son for a day / half a day / a couple of hours with them to support him? i.e. He could take your son with him to visit them, have them round to your house while you go out, meet them at a farm park, playground, the library, etc.? It sounds like you will need to directly instruct him to do that (which you shouldn't have to do but focus on getting a break first).

*this*