Can anybody help?

[Christinagrace22]

I don’t even know where to begin, since last august my 9 year old has found going into school difficult, this started as slight anxiety and has built to him damaging and hitting out at me. I have a plan with the school and if by 9.30 he refuses to go in we are to go home… however, when I try and leave to go home he starts screaming that I don’t take him to school and to ‘take him’ when I try and take him again, he refuses. I’m at a complete loss.. he has nearly put my window through throwing scooters etc at it, he has hit me with countless things and I feel completely powerless. There are a few issues with his father, he applied for access via court which was started however didn’t last lost because his alcohol levels were ridiculous and the children didn’t want to go.. his dad turned up at school at Christmas to watch our daughters Christmas play, my son had a massive panic attack when he saw him and since then it’s near impossible to get in. I know it’s awful to say but it’s making life miserable, It would make life easier if he was able to come home without the anger, it’s affected relationships with my neighbours and also it’s affected me as a mother to my other children. He’s damaged cars and other peoples property which is just shameful. I feel like I have tried everything. Anyone, please anyone if you think you can help please reach other, thanks

Can the school, or GP, refer him to CAHMS?
There is always a really long waiting list so a referral sooner rather than later would be best.

You could contact young minds, they offer help and advice and could tell you the best places to seek support, I’m not sure on the ages they help though but it would be worth contacting them. They offer advice for parents and help to the young person, link below.
It sounds really tough
www.youngminds.org.uk/

I would second making a request for a camhs referral via the gp. It sounds like it’s gone past what any parent could manage and he needs some additional input. I think children’s services may also have a role, especially since his relationship with dad appears to be impacting things and there is a risk to other people when he reaches boiling point. There may be other services local to you but you might need to do some digging to find them. Look at your council website for info about local organisations and arrange an appt with the gp. Keep pushing if you don’t get anywhere at first.
I would also have a conversation again with school and explain that the current plan is placing your own safety at risk, so needs a review.