ExH asking to see my payslip

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We have been divorced now for 5 years. My ExH pays child but not spousal maintenance. He is about to drop the amount of child maintenance because apparently his earnings are now less than minimum wage. He has showed me his payslip and wants to now see mine. Does he have any right? I assumed a clean break is just that - my earnings do not have an impact on his child maintenance payments?

Nope none at all.

Tell him to jog on.

None of his business.

None of his business.

Do you go through the CMS or is it a private arrangement?

Presuming he is the non-resident parent, and the one responsible for paying maintenance, your income has NOTHING to do with anything and he does not need to see your payslip

He has no reason at all to see yours. And nobody would ever tell him he can. Even if he says a lawyer has told him that he has a right to see your earnings, I promise you that it is bullshit.

Your earnings have nothing to do with what he needs to pay. It is only based on what he earns.

If you've seen his payslips then put the figures into the CMS online calculator to work out what he needs to pay, or just call CMS and open a case. They can deal with it. And then neither of you need to he showing payslips.

Just an aside, spousal maintenance is really unusual in the UK. Only really happens when one person earned hundreds of thousands. Even then, it is rare. Why would he be paying spousal maintenance? You get your share of the assets, you get child maintenance and then you support yourself. So I hope you haven't been asking him for spousal maintenance!

Nope, none of his business, and I'd be very suspicious of that payslip. Payslip = employee = can't be paid less than minimum wage. Tell him you'll contact the HMRC hotline where anyone can report employers illegally paying under min wage, and watch him back pedal.

You could be the Queen and he could work in Tescos and it wouldnt change his payments. He has no right to see what you earn.

It's a private arrangement - I made the mistake of trusting him a couple if years ago when his salary was reduced. And now its reduced again

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Less than the minimum wage, that's illegal!

One payslip doesn't mean anything.

Just go to CMS and be done with it.

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Nope, none of his business, and I'd be very suspicious of that payslip. Payslip = employee = can't be paid less than minimum wage. Tell him you'll contact the HMRC hotline where anyone can report employers illegally paying under min wage, and watch him back pedal.

Indeed. Showing you a payslip is pretty odd behaviour in itself I think - easy enough to fabricate.

Just to be clear I don't want spousal maintenance and wouldn't ask for it. He made it clear when we divorced I wouldn't be getting it - and I never expected it

No.
Why do so many men think their contribution is an optional top up?

What you earn has bugger all to do with his responsibility to provide for his children.

He wants to decide if you need his money. 🙄

Tell him you'll be making a formal application for child support via cms and you're sure they'll be passing on to HMRC that he is being paid less than minimum wage (course sure he is 🙄) and they'll investigate the company.

Your income makes absolutely no difference to what he ought to be paying you.

Go through CMS.

There are cases where spousal maintenance is fair - people have different circumstances, so pp shouldn't be lecturing the OP on this. Not least because the OP was very clear that her post was about child support!

Thanks all