Am I in the wrong

[bellalou1234]

I'll probably get flamed for this but. My dd returned home from uni September. She graduated as a nurse.. all good she got her first job at a local hospital. Most of her friends were from uni lived away. She then started going our late returning 6 in the morning to get ready for work stating she was at a friends. Months have passed but secrecy has increased. It turns out she has a boyfriend, however won't even tell me his name. She's going away with him Tuesday abroad. I know she's an adult, but I feel so hurt.

She openly lies every night saying she's nipping to shop. I just wish she'd open open to me, am I expecting too much

Well yeah, it none of your business, but I'd be a bit confused at the secrecy if it was one of mine. If she's normally open with you about stuff like this then there must be something about them she thinks you won't like. Married/female/big age gap??

Yes normally open. She said she'd came off social media, only she hasnt I'm blocked.i know she's an adult but it's the lies. Don't know how best to deal with it.

Is there a reason she feels it necessary to lie to you? Think it'd be worth starting there.

I would start by thinking about why she feels she can't talk to you. Do you normally react badly to things? Are you very judgmental or have been in the past?

If you normally have a close relationship can you get her to sit down with her and be kind to her and try and get her to open up? Yes I would also suspect it’s older man/married or woman if she’s always dated men before so she may just be scared of judgment.?

What’s your relationship normally like OP? Does she confide in you? Do you two normally get on? Is there anyone else in the family she is close to that she might tell?

Sounds like she thinks you won’t approve of her partner.

Have you ever said something negative about same sex couples, large age gaps or people of a different race or religion? Could it be that?

Sorry for late reply. No I'm never said anything negative, I've tried to be supportive. I've met other boyfriends.ive no clue where she is apparently the flight to Washington was early, she's online intermittently on whatapp..