Would this make you uncomfortable?

[CharJ10]

Hi,
I have a 3 year old daughter who is cared for by her grandparents (my husband's parents) every Friday. Whilst we don't argue and are civil there's certainly no relationship between them and myself and I don't feel they've ever been very supportive of my/our parenting choices.
Tonight, when I collected her after work, we were leaving they did the whole 'can we have a hug goodbye?' on repeat which I dislike because if she says no to that I'd like them to respect it. However the thing I'm asking about is that when my daughter gave her grandma a kiss, my FIL said 'eewwwww snogging' to her.
Something just didn't sit right with me. An almost 70 year old man using that language in reference to something my daughter was doing, and within her hearing. My husband however thinks it's totally appropriate and that I'm overreacting by finding it uncomfortable. Am I being unreasonable just because I don't really get on with his parents or would you also find that comment inappropriate? TIA x

Up there with those who refer to their dc as sexy. Grim.

I wouldn't say you're being unreasonable, but it wouldn't personally bother me (assuming he was trying to joke around with her?)

I imagine he was just trying to make her laugh.

It sounds like you are trying to imply something so why don’t you just outright as that if it’s your concern?

Absolute not accusing or suggesting anything untoward I just think it's unnecessary language to use towards a little girl. I'd prefer her not to repeat it at nursery/to friends etc!

It's not how I'd talk to a three year old but honestly, it just sounds like he's making a daft joke. I wouldn't overthink it. If they're providing childcare then I think you just have to accept that they might express themselves in ways you wouldn't.

It's clear from our post that you're not keen on them generally and I wonder whether that's affecting your response to this.

Hmm, I wouldn't like this either but I don't think he probably meant anything by it and was just trying to make a (silly) joke.

yes I would find that creepy ,i had the father inlaw say my baby sounds like its making sexual noises this was while sitting with his partner the gran. It made me feel uneasy I always say trust your instinct. It might have been just him being silly though and see how it goes.

Op, I would have to say that if you don’t want this behaviour you need to rethink childcare arrangements.

It’s hard with family as they will not always follow your choices when you are not around (unlike paid professionals who are more likely to).

If you feel uncomfortable with fil or his comments consider not leaving your child with them.

Why do you if you have no relationship with them? How did that come about?

She will repeat lots of things at nursery, school and beyond you can’t always control that!

Completely agree that a child should be supported to say no, and that be respected, but it sounds like your pil wouldn’t support that

Sorry op but this sounds like a huge overreaction. It’s sounds as though he was just trying to make her laugh.

It all sounds incredibly uptight.

3 is far too young to be hearing references to snogging I agree. My 8yo only just knows what it is. So yes, inappropriate language AND really gross coming from family.