Mum guilt!

[Wanderholly]

Hi everyone, I'm 38 weeks along with my little girl, and very excited! I was just hoping someone might be able to help with tips on alleviating mum guilt? I know my boy is going to love his sister but I'm so going to miss it just being me and him at the same time and I'm absolutely terrified he's going to feel pushed out. Has anyone else felt this way?

The mum guilt is here to stay I’m afraid. It never leaves you. However. The moment your new baby is here. It’ll all fizzle away. And then, your little man, sees and meets his new baby sister. Mind blown.

I’ve got 4 kids.

You just gently water yourself down a bit. Expand yourself even. Baby on you, little man sat next to you. Fit baby around your boys routine. Keep his going. “Have baby, will travel”. Leave baby to cry for a moment in their cot whilst you tend to your boy. There will be moments when you feel torn and that you’re split in two. Hopefully you have a partner who can take over some of the daily things like bath time. Story maybe. Then you switch over. And you go to him. Like a tag team.

Honestly. It doesn’t go away. But you just get better traversing it. Shit happens. Buckle up. Enjoy the ride. Don’t sweat the little things. And do a lot. Stay home. Pop CBeebies on. And
Aim for little steps out each day. Little by little.

Never ever compare yourself to others. You go at your own pace when baby is here. Enjoy it. I did. Hence why I had 4! And those hard times here and there just fizzle away. You just get on with it love. But I think the key is to not over share yourself with people/activities. Save your best for your kids. People come in and out of your life. But your kids are there always. Invest in them. I think my Mum guilt is I didn’t invest enough in them. Never too late though. As they’re 17,14,11 and 9. But that would be my advice.

And remember to practice what you preach. Pat yourself on the back each day think. Yeah! I made it through the day and achieved this. Little victories.

I'm feeling the same. My DD has been our world for 3.5 years and although she is excited to be a big sister I know it's going to be a massive change for her. She doesn't understand that things will change so much. I am already so tired and aching and wishing this time away until the baby comes so I already feel guilty for not being emotionally present and playing with her like I used to. I've started reading the second baby book which is really helpful but also scares me! So many things I hadn't considered!