First Mother's Day

[EdithGrantham]

It will be my first Mother's Day as a mum this year and wondering what other families do. Does your DP/DH spend the day with you or their own mum?

With you and your DC, of course, with visits/video calls (depending on distances) to your DMs factored in.

If my DH (a 41yo father of two) decided to spend all mother's Day with his own mum leaving me with the kids he can sodding well pack his bag and move back there. It's my day too.

I get a nice long lie in, a nice long shower with no interruptions, breakfast made for me. He takes the kids out by himself for a bit, we usually see both our mums and he makes dinner for us. On Father's Day he also gets to take the kids out by himself. 😆

Different people do different things, and some people feel a day like mother's day is more significant than others. Like how some people always book their birthday off work, like to have a party and a bit of a fuss made, would be disappointed that their friends and family didn't make an effort to mark it. While others may like to get a handmade card from the kids, and an excuse to buy a caterpillar cake, but it's mostly just another day.

The important thing is to explain what your expectations are, to avoid disappointment. If mother's day is going to be a big thing for you, but your other half is from a family that didn't really do much more than his mum having a card and a bunch of flowers, then you're lining up to have mixed expectation disappointment unless you make it clear what you're hoping for.

My mum and dad come round here for dinner and my husband, grandad and kids cook for all of us 😀

Thank you all, DHs family definitely don't make a big deal of it, or anything apart from Christmas really! My family always did a bit more and DH knows that so has asked me what I'd like to do

DD is still breastfeeding pretty often so don't get more than a couple of hours apart from her at the moment.

I think I'll go for breakfast in bed, afternoon tea with my mum and nan somewhere (take the baby with me), back home for a glass of wine and bath and maybe something for dinner cooked by DH, basically I'll base the day round lots of tasty food!

I usually go to see my mum with the kids.
My dh is rarely home for mothers day. He is out of the country this year, also missing our twins birthday. He got me some gifts and cards for mothers day before he left, didn't bother wrapping them though .