Co-parenting name change

[Sheisfee]

Hi,

My partner & I who have been together for 8 years will be getting married at the end of the year.

My daughter (almost 10) from previous relationship who has been raised predominantly by myself & my current partner wants to take my soon to be married name as myself, my partner, our daughter & my step son who lives with us half the week will all share the same name & my daughter also wants to share this name.

I contacted my ex about who has taken me to court 3 times & lost because he finds it difficult to let things go & move on. He has told me that he will not allow our daughter to change her name & that she must stick with my maiden name.

Our daughters surname is double barrelled so it has her bio dads & my names in so I have absolutely no idea why he would want her to keep her mums maiden name.

I’m going to apply to court to try and get permission from a judge, has anyone had any success with this?

I did-I just changed his name so he was known as x blue rather than x lilies informally
Had zero problems until he hit 18 and we changed it by deed poll for passport reasons
Didn’t take long when we did change it officially
His ‘dad’ fought me at the time but he was told to wind his neck in and that a judge wouldn’t even look at it as he was doing this because he could,not because it benefitted him
I wouldn’t worry too much-even when I had to take his birth certificate into school for a place,I just put x blue on the forms and nobody battered an eyelid over it

Does he see his child ?

@Bluelillies thanks for this. I’ll have a chat with her school to see if they’ll change it for her but I doubt it. I’m hoping that the courts will see through his bullshit too - his name will still be half of her surname so he has no reason to do this.

@whysoserious123 yeah, he see’s her for a day a week. He’s meant to have more contact time & has dragged me through court 3 times for extra time but he always goes back to a few hours or a day a week.

Why don’t you double barrel with your DH’s name and all the kids have hyphenated surnames of their parents? Then all the kids will share at least one name with parents, and with each other and your Dd won’t feel she wants to change her name?

@HomeHomeInTheRange thanks, this is an option but my daughter wants to share her brother & sisters name understandably.

I'm interested in this thread for my own situation. My daughter has her dads name- he is estranged, not been in her life for 6 1/2 years (she's 7). He has indirect access from the courts that he doesn't use. As you can imagine she doesn't understand why she has the name she has. I would love to change it but I dread opening Pandora's box by going through court and him finding out! At school they let her use my name on everything unofficial.

Sorry op that is zero help to your situation- but schools do informally change names, so if you can't change it officially I would ask.

[quote Sheisfee]@whysoserious123 yeah, he see’s her for a day a week. He’s meant to have more contact time & has dragged me through court 3 times for extra time but he always goes back to a few hours or a day a week.[/quote]
Oh right. Are you allowed to change a child's name without the other parents consent ? Just thinking if he does have contact and pays for your child would he consent? And if he doesn't consent would a judge ? I have no idea on this just thinking