Not walking or talking

[Jojodan]

Hi all,so I have a friend who has a baby boy and is now 22 months old,she isn't a close friend but she's the girlfriend of my partners friend from work,but anyway from her having him you could clearly see there was something wrong,he wasn't sitting up until he was 10 month old,when he cry's he arches he's back that much he's head touches he's bum,when they pick him up he's legs just dangle there,they are really slim with no muscles tone,our little boy is now 15 month old and walking all over and they now don't come round anymore as there little boy is still using a baby walker,he doesn't speak anything not even mumbles,he cry's constantly and I think it's coz he's in pain,they don't take him anywhere as I think they are ashamed only place they go are he's nanas, which after having kids of her own you would think she would be pointing things out to them but no one is,I'm not close enough to feel to be able to say anything to them about it,I personally think he has cerebral palsy,the hv has seen him awhile back but just said see how he goes,he stands up on the sofa but he leans on it with he's legs bent apart,he's a poorly boy but they just don't see it and it's so annoying,they won't bring him here to play with our little boy as he's doing things he's age should be doing and I feel bad about it,there boy crawls but he's legs are really wide apart almost so the inside of he's legs are touching the floor and he jumps rather than crawls,he looks like a frog crawling,how can I say without sounding rude he needs looking at?to me any parent would of taken them to there gp months ago but they haven't and there having another one which is due end of this month which also concerns me,the mum has slight learning difficulties not sure what as I say we are not that close for me to ask but can clearly see there is a problem,you can't speak to her if you ask her a question she looks to her bloke for the answer and he answers it for her,do I just let them get on with it or do I just say something as I feel that poor boy is not getting all the help he needs,thanks for reading this everyone

And also people when I say the parents seem ashamed if anyone of you could see the way they hide him away and stuff it is exactly like they are,which annoys me,when they do bring him here I sit on the floor and play with him as he likes to be played with not just mum or dad sat on sofa looking at the tv,not saying it's there fault either that he's the way he is but there not helping either,everyone on here who has commented have all said you would speak to someone or you would take your child here and there but these do not do that,the dad goes to work at 10 in a morning home by 3 by 3.30 he's on he's computer till 10.30 at least on a night and only stops for a fag break,so what do I do when ya can clearly see this going on,the only places they will go is the dads mams house as it's round the corner from them or maybe once or twice a month come here,it does sound cruel when I say they ashamed of him but trust me if you was in my shoes seeing what I see then you would think the same,yes I agree maybe don't take him out often as he kicks off from them placing him in he's pram to getting back home but seriously he's in pain you can clearly see he is,he can't even sit up right still he's almost leaning to a side like if he sat upright it hurts him even more

Could you not raise concerns with SS? If you truly believe the child is in pain then I think it would be a good thing to contact someone, either their HV or SS?

If you really believe it's that bad then you should contact HV or Social Services. Poor kid. You can do it anonymously if that's easier.

I think based on your description of them, I would report to SS as they obviously need more help than a HV can offer.