Sex after new baby??

[sleepymum2221]

Not sure where to put this I just need advice from other parents really!

Our first baby is 10 weeks old and we haven’t had sex since I was about 34 weeks pregnant which is when things got really uncomfortable.

MIL had baby the other night for a few hours so we tried to but I was really uncomfortable and it felt quite tight and sore (and I was in the mood there was no doubt about it) this then killed the mood and we didn’t

Not sure when our next child free few hours will be and was baby is so young they still sleep in our bedroom in their cot so that’s out of the question. Baby also will mainly nap on me so won’t even nap in a cot in the day so we can sneak off and do it!

Anyone got any tips please? Will we have sex ever again?!! I miss my DH - though we do love being parents

No advise, but in a similar situation. How do people do it?

It took us over a year. I had a nasty 2nd degree tear and lots of scarring tissue; sex was incredibly painful so we only attempted it a couple of times; had to be referred to gynae in the end (who prescribed dildos in varying sizes on the NHS in the end... that was an interesting conversation with the pharmacist).
You're 10 weeks in. Of course you'll have sex again! It's early days yet. You can also be intimate without PIV.

We crack on if baby is sleeping in the same room, not disturbed any of them.
Max we've waited after a baby was 8 weeks with 1st as I had vontouse and was quite bruised.

Yeah just go for it if baby is asleep!

Sofa when baby is asleep in the bedroom ?

Are you breastfeeding? When I breastfed I found it affected me and made my vagina sore and dry. We used lubrication and took it slowly. As soon as I stopped breastfeeding I stopped having problems.

Not BFing and we would do a couch but we have 1 sitting room and downstairs is open plan, and a dog! Dog is quite a needy dog so would go somewhere else he likes to be nearby us which adds to the list of barriers

Took about a year before sex became enjoyable. Hard to get in the mood etc

The baby is only a few weeks old, as long as you keep the noise down they won't know anything about it or be affected by you having sex in the same room. I understand people have different views on this but personally I don't think it's an issue.

I'm 11 months post c section and I still find it quite tight and painful and she didn't even come out that way. OH is also still sleeping in another room even though dd is in her own room her on the baby monitor disturbs him so we don't get much time. For months when it was really too painful we would just use/do other stuff (bullet vibrator, oral etc other than penetrative) and that I would find was more enjoyable as getting down there comfortable enough for sex took ages and still would hurt. We would crack on with her asleep when she was in our room as she was a deep sleeper, or do stuff in shower or on sofa mainly.

Tbh I think it takes a good year if you're in the same room, for Me nearer 5 at this rate haha.

We've only just started again and baby is seven months. Starting very slowly due to second degree tear and a bad sleeper so we're too exhausted anyway.