Potty trained now not ?

[Warszawa]

Our nearly 3 year old dd is somewhat potty trained - but last few days just seems to pee on the floor.

She shows all the usual signs and we ask her do you need a pee ?

She says no but within minutes pees on the floor.

She had also had a lot of accidents at nursery.

Anyone else been through similar ? My partner reacts by getting annoyed which I don't think is good but I understand her frustration as our carpet is more piss than pile at the moment lol

If she's showing all the signs, take her to the toilet. Get back on track for a week or so. Then slowly go back to asking her if she needs to go. It may just be that you've switched from taking her to asking her too quickly.

If you spot her needing to go, just take her! Then really really praise her for going, even if you have to take whatever toy she’s playing with with you. Or put some kind of reward awaiting, if she goes when you tell her to. The novelty has worn off! It’s still very early days

Have you tried not asking her but just frogmarching her to the loo whenever it’s been a while and/or she can’t sit still? A lot of young kids will deny they need it until it gets urgent so I don’t think she’s unusual there! And your partner shouldn’t be getting cross with her, it’s making it into a far bigger deal than it should be. Also baking soda is great for cleaning up accidents.

Yea we used to sit her on the potty/toilet but then she started to say herself "wee wee" or "pop" and just go herself.

She does still poi in the potty luckily but I think you are right in regards to the novelty wearing off - thank you :)

It can take many months before your completely accident free, but it’s not a race, just keep encouraging and praising. She’ll get there, be patient

Bit of an update i would appreciate some more advice.

This morning we did as suggested and put her on the potty - and she started saying "push the button" while pressing her bladder - this isn't something we have ever said - we are wondering if nursery are doing this and it's made her uncomfortable?

It's hard to take what a 2 year old says but at the same time we can't ignore it - should we ask them what their technique is.

As others have said regressions are normal but at the same time If someone has made her feel bad about this it could explain the change in behaviour

My best advice is at home take off the clothes. At nursery you can still take the pull up diapers for another couple of weeks if your child needs, but do explain very clearly that she's expected to use the toilet.

Peeing in underwear is kind of like peeing in the diaper, so it's completely different when they don't have anything. DD1 started asking to put diaper on to pee 😂 and it just clicked for her!

Btw, how close is your child to 3 yo? I did my kids' potty training closer to 3 and it was quite quick

Thanks :)

She is 3 in April

And do take off the carpets in the meantime 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Warszawa

Bit of an update i would appreciate some more advice.

This morning we did as suggested and put her on the potty - and she started saying "push the button" while pressing her bladder - this isn't something we have ever said - we are wondering if nursery are doing this and it's made her uncomfortable?

It's hard to take what a 2 year old says but at the same time we can't ignore it - should we ask them what their technique is.

As others have said regressions are normal but at the same time If someone has made her feel bad about this it could explain the change in behaviour

I seriously doubt the nursery are getting her to jab herself in the bladder but I would definitely ask them what their approach is because if nothing else, it’s good to get on the same page and be consistent.

Yeah I'd speak to nursery about their approach - it might just be another child she often goes to the toilet with but it does sound odd.

I'd stop asking if she needs to go if she's not reliable - just tell her to as soon as she starts doing the wee wee dance or if you've noticed it's been a while since she went. They get so engrossed in whatever they're doing so sometimes it's just having to remind them. We always insist on wees before we leave the house so that's become routine now with our 3yo.