7 month old miserable and frustrated

[Gemmaemilyx]

Has anyone else had a 'high need' baby? My 7 mo daughter is so miserable and has been for a few month. She seems frustrated constantly and I'm pulling my hair out everyday. She will sit and play for a couple minutes max then scream the place down. Won't tolerate being away from me in a jumperoo/ Walker. I'm even finding it hard to go to the loo without her screaming. My partner works long hours so by the time he's home she's asleep. I try using the carrier which she loves but would be in it all day if she could but it hurts my shoulders and back and I can't stand up all day. I'm at my wits end!

She's bf and used to sleep well until 4 month regression. Usually waking up once at 4am or not at all- thought I'd hit the jackpot! But since Christmas she wakes up anything between 15 mins-2hrly. Resorted to co sleeping but it's not comfortable at all!

Feel like I'm doing nothing but moan but I'm at my wits end!

She's trying desperately to crawl but not yet grasped it. Can sit independent since 5 months. Only has 3x 30 min contact naps a day. Won't tolerate the cot at all.

Please tell me someone's been through this and there's light at the end of the tunnel (hopefully soon!!)

God yes this post has taken me back! Good news is, high needs babies just get better and better with age (or at least that was my experience with 21 month old DS). He was absolutely furious between the ages of 6-14 months (sorry). His first year was miserable, hard work if i’m honest. He transformed into an utter delight when he almost simultaneously learnt to walk and talk. He never crawled though - I bet yours will get better when they crawl before getting grumpy again before walking. It’s something about milestones that seem to make these kids particularly angry!

Naps. Yes. Only consistently lengthened beyond 30 minutes at about 10 -11 months I’m afraid. He’s now an utter nightmare to wake up from his naps and could sleep all afternoon, which a year ago I would have never, ever believed.

Also now sleeps through btw. I lost my mind at 10 months and we night weaned him and stopped cosleeping (?not sure how you are feeding). Rapidly started sleeping through after, made the daily slog a lot easier when I was less sleep deprived.

Thanks everyone. I looked at the sling and it was poorly fitted on the loosest setting. Tried back carrying - she wasn't the biggest fan but I got to eat my food with 2 hands and not worried about a baby grabbing my food 🤣🤣

I wish I was being dramatic - but it's 24/7. Past few nights she's decided she will wake everytime j try and transfer her into her cot. So backs in bits from co sleeping and the sling haha!!

Willl update this thread again when's she's more manageable!!

Xx

I could have written this word for word when my ds was younger! I have no advice on how you can change it because everything I tried didn't work! But all I can say is it does get easier.

Ds is now 20 months and still is 'high needs' in comparison to other toddlers his age in that he still doesn't love being the other side of the stair gate whilst I cook or me going into the toilet shutting the door etc etc. Also is still just a little more wingey than others but in comparison to what you're going through now, it's nothing!

I feel how hard it is. It was one of the hardest times of my life! But you'll get through it and it'll get easier! Sending you strength and hugs!

@Gemmaemilyx I wonder how you are getting on?