The shame! I may have to use disposables on my nearly 4 yo at night

[dingdong05]

I really don't want to, but he is showing no signs of keeping dry at night (I even tried it anyway and had a soaking bed 3 nights in a row

I have tried bedwetter pants, boosting the heck out of size 3 tots and any other nappy that still fits him, and he always wets his pjs by morning time.

I'm loosing the will... please help!

Try Lidl pull ups, they come in size 6 now. Working for us at the moment.

They can be 7 before they are dry at night though.

What wraps are you using?
Rebs come in XXL, I've been meaning to buy some as the XL's are too tight on DS now.

I forget the figures but I think its 1 out of 10 boys will still be wetting at night by the time they are 7. You are not alone. My DS was still in pyjama pants till he was 8. I found that 'pyjama pants' (Pampers I think) were brill, and definatly better than changing the sheets 7 times a week. If its only a 1 or 2 a week thing you can get the bed wetting pads, that they sleep on, but it still means you get wet PJ's.

At 4yo I wouldn't think twice about it, I think it's actually still quite young to be dry at night. And nobody should have to do that much laundry!

My friend has agonised over this with her son, they've tried limiting evening drinks and waking him up for the loo as late as possible but it just doesn't work. He wets nightly without fail! He'll grow out in his own time. He's 6yo.

I think he's in the Pampers pyjama pants too btw.

notjustmom I am a real nappy lover, and advisor! How can I persuade people to stick to real nappies when I cave and use disposables after all this time!
I am not shamed by my ds, he is lovely and a shining light in my little world
He is a super soaker, and always has been (his bladder must be HUGE! ) and I managed to figure it out when he was in daytime nappies, but night time is a long time and (judging from the nappyless nights) he has at least 2 of his huge wees through the night without waking.

Hey Duchess, I'm not too concerned that he's not dry at night, it's how to soak it all up that's bothering me!
If I must I could get those eco disposables... but I bet they don't come as big as I need... he's over 3 stones now...

The pyjams pants come in various sizes and my Ds only just started going in to the large when he was 8.

Ahh! its an ecology question. Its comes to a balancing act. How much damage are you doing to the environment with your washing powder and water heating, compared to 1 disposable pair of pull ups a night.

The only ones that DD will still consent to wear are minki yoyos

I used washable nappies with ds from birth and then had to resort to pull ups at night for over a year.

There just isn't something that can be pulled down like undies just in case they finally get it but is absorbant enough to go all night.

All the baby shops looked at me like I was mad asking for such a thing.

discoverlife you are right, i never thought of that. dd is nearly 4 and is still wet at night. she is now refusing to put pullups on so i am leaving them off, she goes to the loo before she falls asleep a couple of times off her own back, but when asleep she wees, doesn't wake, soaks the bed, doesn't wake. i put pullups on her in her sleep to avoid the hassle of changing her in her sleep/washing the next day. i can't be doing with that and a 9 month old waking 4 flipping times a night. each to their own, but i know my dd and she isn't ready hormonally to realise she needs a wee in her sleep.

I got what OP meant right away from thread title (about not wanting to ditch cloth). We have recently done same with our 3.5yo DS. Didn't see the point of extra trouser and sheet washing.
We were up to 2 terries and a hemp nappy all wrapped up together b4 I gave up... Do they even do wraps in XXL? What did our grannies do (other than tweak them around the ears for not being dry day and night by 18 months)?
DS now sometimes leaking thru Nature Babies, too, so I think we need some meaty nighttime disps, alas.
I did manage with cloth at night with DD until she was almost 6yo, but girls seem to produce less and more often and it's less directed when it comes out (so less likely to escape)...

Oops, horsemadgal has mentioned an XXL wrap. Rebs, read here, think I might try one...
Also this PUL one from Nappymania.

Dont tell anyone in RL if it is an issue to you

I think 4 is very young. We tried everything with DS1, lifting, limiting drinks etc and he was 6 when he suddenly got the 'hang' of it and we've never looked back since ! Actually he said 'Why does my bed smell like the hamster cage ?' and I think that might have shamed him into it

TBH, it doesnt really matter if they are a big wetter or a smaller one, its still a wet bed and bags of washing isn't it ?

ding - sorry I missed the point. I'm afraid I never found a good cloth night nappy, none of that double-nappying etc worked either with mine so I always used disposables at night.

I can't remember how big Tushies, Moltex etc sizes go. DD2 is still wearing Nature nappies, she's just over 2 stone but not in the largest size. Certainly the Nature nappies can swell to an alarming size before leaking! But they're not pull-up style, if that's a consideration.

How about Bambo?. It says they fit a 35-55lb toddler but again not pull-up style. And I've never used this make so can't recommend.

Also, don't have a guilt trip just because your a nappy lady! Washable nappies are great but eco-disposables are probably just as green once you take the washing-machine use into the argument.

If I'd tried to persevere with ONLY washables I would probably have given them up altogether. The fact that I compromised by using disposables at night meant I was able to continue using washables during the day. (And this daft bitch had 3 in nappies all at the same time so it was one hell of a commitment!)

My DS3 wore the the Bambo XL- Plus with great success up until a few months ago (he's 4 1/2 and quite hefty). I too gave up on the cotton nappies as I couldn't keep up with the washing of nappies, pjs and bedding every day.

I found that the non eco and admittedly cheaper pullups gave him eczema and a very itychy bot which kept him ( and us) awake more than the wet bed did.

Thanks for everyones help here... I think whatever I go for it'll have to be pullupable as ds likes to go to the potty about 5 mins after getting into bed (I'm pretty sure it's just an excuse to get up but there's always something there ) and I DON't want to discourage that.
I know I'll be telling funny stories about this in the future but for now it makes me g hmmmm lol

Dingdong - I know how you are feeling. After a nightmare time I have had to stop using cloth on DS. I don't know why it has all gone wrong but it has.

You still have all of the knowledge to give the advice. Sometimes it just doesn't work any more, in the same way that some people who have been dead set against cloth turn to it when disposables have gone all wrong for them.