my third is 10 months now and we have no routine whatsoever. its probably the reason for him not sleeping through the night and is still in our bed from about 2am onwards, waking several times in the night. in the evenings he sleeps on the sofa whilst dh and i get some time on our own.
so i've definitely got a tough battle ahead - new year's resolution is to get him sleeping in his cot in the evenings .
SO dont worry you're not alone. it wasnt until ds started to sit and crawl that i felt i could put him down and left alone for a few mins. he was literally carried for the first six months of his life .
we do have a very stricit timetable in the mornings and evenings as well. dd1 is at school, so everyone gets up at 7am, breakfast, teeth & face, get dressed and then they have 30mins tv before we leave for school. i shut off the tv 10 mins before we need to leave for shoes, coats any last minute nappy changes (toddler still in nappies) and anything else that can go wrong (usually one of them now asks for food). and then we're off. although its only a 20 minute walk to school, i give myself 30 minutes.
bathtime is at 6.30-6.45pm. ds & dd2 bath together, ds is then out and dd1 goes in - more warm water and lots more toys. ds is dried, dressed and then bed. then back to get the girls sorted. dd2 bed (7.30pm)and dd1 gets to stay up whilst i put dishes away and chatting. all in bed by 8.00pm. then ds will wake up and i'll need to feed him before putting him on the sofa.
DH arrives home about 8.00pm.
so thats our routine on a good day ... bad days are kids screaming, tv on constantly and me crying to DH to get him to come home at 6.00pm if i'm lucky. there have been fewer of these days as they've all got older. dds play together better and more often. ds can amuse himself if the girls are around ... so it has gotten easier.
it'll be all worth it when you hear all three of them giggling/laughing ....