3yo said someone called her rude today

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As the title suggests, my 3yo was recounting her day and told me X and Y said she was rude today. I asked more about it and she said this happened while they were having lunch, I asked what she was doing and she said nothing, just eating my lunch.

Do I bring it up with the preschool? She didn't seem bothered or sad but I am!

X and Y are fellow 3/4 year olds - realised that wasn't clear!

well maybe she was doing something uncouth.
was it adults or children who said it.

Are x and y adults or children?

If adults then yes it might be worth asking the staff. But even then, probably not worth bothering about if your dd isnt bothered by it. If they are children then by posting this, you are already over-reacting, so no, its not worth bringing it up.

No! Just leave it. If it's a recurring thing and the same kids keep being mean to her that's different but a) children make all sorts of shite up and b) that's quite tame really.

I think I'd just acknowledge it at the time "Oh dear, what happened? Oh that's a shame" etc and not really talk about it again unless it happens again.

She probably did something X and Y have been taught is rude, chewed with her mouth open, failed to say please, interrupted, wiped her nose on her sleeve

I doubt either of them can remember now and I'm certain the nursery won't know what it was about. What would your reason for talking to them be? What would you hope to achieve?

No don't mention it. It's a total non event

3 year olds say a whole lot worse, she was probably doing something the other child's mum tells her is rude like talking with food in her mouth. Children are good at parroting adults at that age. Anyway the nursery likely won't have a clue. Lunch time can be pretty chaotic, I'm not sure what you'd say.

No

Also if this makes you bothered and sad you'd better start preparing yourself now for primary school! 😬

Blimey you’re going to have a long long time with school years if you call for little things like this, good luck!

I told my 4 year old off ‘for being rude’ (it was one of those days) no he won’t stop telling everyone how rude they are, I’m repeating its just a phase multiple times

Ah I feel better now first child (probably obvious) so wanted to check with MN what to do. Now I know - nothing! Thanks all.

No. It’s just kids.

I thought you meant one of the staff said it to her!