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Please help me prepare for tonight's battle!!!

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unicornanddinosaur · 01/03/2022 17:49

I have 2 DC. DC1 is almost 6 and the worlds worst sleeper, almost since birth has never slept through the night, scared of the dark, nightmares and everything else!

DC2 nearly 3 and has always been my amazing sleeper. Normally sleeps 13 hours a night. If they get woken up by something they are happy to self soothe back to sleep and generally never had any issues at night time.

Now my issue... we only have a two bedroom house which means the DC are supposed to share a room. This hasn't worked for a while because DC1 will constantly wake up crying and it wakes her sibling up and then it ruins both of their sleep. So for the past year or so we have just been letting Dc1 sleep in our bed (yes I know, terrible parenting!!) because to be honest everybody then has a brilliant night sleep. However DC2 has now started to become frightened at night, I've put a nightlight in the bedroom and sit with them until they go to sleep. But this isn't enough and now we are having constant screaming all night because they won't go to sleep without me in their bed.

Our bed just isn't physically big enough for 4. I know that the kindest thing to do is to make them both sleep in their own beds but I feel like this is too much to tackle in one step so I'm trying to get my youngest back in to sleeping and then I can tackle the issues with the eldest.

Last night I tried being comforting, sitting by DC2s bed, holding hands, soothing ect. This didn't work as every time I moved they screamed. I tried being a bit stricter and just going in putting them back in bed saying goodnight and walking out again. That didn't work. It was just non stop screaming for hours until they were eventually so exhausted they just fell asleep on their duvet on the floor.

I can't handle another night of the same so I'm hoping someone might come along with some other helpful suggestions please??

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Inthesky42 · 01/03/2022 19:21

To me it sounds like the shortest pain for the longest gain is getting them room sharing as you had intended. Especially given DC2 is not being a perfect sleeper right now. I'd have a bit of a refresh of the decor / make some cosy spaces for them both to hang out etc to get them excited about the prospect and then work on keeping them both in their beds. If that means you then have a mattress to sleep on in their room for a few weeks then that may work? That way any wakeups can be jumped on quickly so as not to wake the other one, you're there to provide the comfort and reassurance that everything will be OK and they remind them they can sleep in their own beds? It may be DC2 is being more stubborn as he's realised DC1 gets to spend all night with mummy and doesn't think its very fair

Mrsmch123 · 01/03/2022 22:21

I think it's a little unfair that dc2 doesn't get in the bed, I mean I can see why but from their point of view it will seem veryyyy unfair. I would suffer the broken sleep/disruption and put everyone back into their own beds. They can keep each other company. Easier said than done I know but it will be better in the long run.

unicornanddinosaur · 02/03/2022 06:25

I completely agree, it is really unfair, that's why I want to try and get on top of it now. Thank you for the advice. It looks like I was actually worried about nothing last night as DC2 slept like a dream. However I have now ordered a camp bed and will be setting up camp in the kids room so I can't get on to the task of getting DC1 back in their own bed! Thanks.

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unicornanddinosaur · 02/03/2022 06:26

Can not can't!

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ClutterofStarlings · 02/03/2022 06:29

Is their room big enough for a double bed, even a small one? Would them sharing with each other help?

unicornanddinosaur · 02/03/2022 06:36

@ClutterofStarlings

Is their room big enough for a double bed, even a small one? Would them sharing with each other help?
Sharing definitely wouldn't be an option. This is one of the main reasons we can only have one in our bed at a time because if they both come in they fight constantly
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