Would you date a single parent?

[Singlemum1996xxx]

Exactly that, would you date a single parent?

No. Seen to many horrid step mum / step dad relationships that go tits up. You need to go in eyes open that the child will be higher in the pecking order than you (or vice versa if you are the single parent).

I did. Worked out alright.

I personally wouldn’t. I was in a relationship with a guy who was a complete Disney Dad and that was bad enough. If anything happened with me and DH, I wouldn’t want to date anyone with DC.

If I was single, no I wouldn’t.

No.
Because my kids are much older and I don't want to go backwards.

No, which makes me a hypocrite as I was a single mum. It didn't put DH off, although we have known each other long before we dated.

I have dated a single parent and I have been a single parent who was dating. I'm married now but I wouldn't date a single parent again. Maybe it would have been easier if I didn't have kids, but I found the organising of seeing each other and both having to sort childcare difficult to manage and sometimes our boys fought and naturally each parent would side with their child and it created tension and caused arguments at times. When your parenting styles clash it's hard.
My husband didnt have kids before we met. He walked into a ready made family with me, then we had another baby. I know he's fully committed to us. If he already had children he wouldn't have been able to do that. It may seem selfish of me but that's just the way I feel about it.

I wouldn't date someone with young kids at all.

If single I wouldn't rule someone out because they had children.

I did. Turned out well but I wouldn’t do it again if I ended up single again.

Why?

It depends.

Someone who sees their kids EOW and one night in the week, pays minimum maintenance etc I'd struggle to have full respect for unless their were extenuating circs.

Someone who had them every single weekend l, when would you ever really get to date?

So maybe if they had a good 40-60/60-40 agreement Inc alt weekends, a decent relationship with his ex (can be in the same room, celebrate important things together when necessary, doesn't refer to her in bad terms) then yes, when I was single.

Now I have three of my own, I just don't see how logistically it would ever really work.

I did consider getting back with an ex who had a kid 9 months and 2 days after we broke up, shall we say. He saw his DS, was a good Dad. I was child free and had already met DS so I could see how it could have worked because he wasn't introducing a woman he barely knew so we could have had family time early on etc.

No, I would never put my children in a step family or become part of anyone else's.

No never again. My dc are older and I don't wish to be around young dc. 14+ I'd consider it if he wasn't a Disney dad and had a similar outlook on parenting styles and boundaries.

Yes I would.

Nope. I'm married with DSC, I will stick at it, but wouldn't have gone ahead had I known how awful it would be. Would advise anyone to run.