MIL blatantly favours DH’s brothers kids?

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Sorry just need to rant a bit.

It shouldn’t bother me, I need to let it go and when I’ve mentioned it to DH we’ve ended up arguing.

But it really fucking pisses me off how MIL blatantly favours his brothers children, and doesn’t put half the effort in with our child.

Does anyone else have this? Really struggling to bite my tongue but I think I’ll blow one day which won’t be good? I can’t stand it mainly because I’m protective of my child and all of my family treat the grandkids the same, not on ounce of favouritism anywhere.

Do you need this woman and her attentions? Ignore it all.

@Mischance thank you this is the best way of looking at it. I keep trying to I don’t know why it infuriates me so much when I have amazing support on my side who don’t play favourites anywhere!

I feel a bit immature getting annoyed over it, I wish DH would see it and stand up to her at least I feel she should be put in her place.

This is very common. Sadly I don't think there's a way of stopping it, only caring less about it.

I think you have to ignore it TO A POINT. That is while the cousins are getting extra time/days out/gifts etc that your dc know nothing about I'd ignore it.

If however it takes place when you are all together so ranny turns up with a barbie house for cousin, yours gets a packet of smarties -(assuming it's not cousins birthday etc). Or if granny talks about going here and there with cousin in dcs presence or cousin talks about getting this or that from granny to your dc, then you have to take action and remove your dc from the situation. Do not let them grow up thinking they are second best.

I did ignore it for a long time but the build up of resentment after many years became unhealthy for me so now I’ve gone very low contact and pretty much detached myself and my kids from them.
I doubt they’d see what they were doing even if we did raise it and after such a long time doing it they have a very limited relationship with my kids so it’s not like they can suddenly start giving them the same attention and fix it.
They know something is wrong but they’d rather eat their own arm off than ask what!