Third child... regrets??

[Emily6457]

Hello,

My husband and I are considering a third child.

Financially we are stable, we have enough room and money for a third child. I’m all for it but my husband is on the fence, just because he doesn’t think we need another child and should enjoy the two we have.

My question is... does anyone regret having a third child?
And has anyone decided not to have a third child and regretted it later on?

Why is this in bereavement, OP?

Hi OP,

We are moving this to the Parenting topic as it seems like a better fit. Do get in touch however if there's a reason you'd like it to remain in this topic.

Best,
MNHQ

No regrets on our third.

And feel very much done. Grateful.

I don't regret my third. He really adds all elements of crazy to my family. But everything is so much more expensive. Sat in a hotel at the mo and we've needed two hotel rooms as we have three kids. Everything is set up for families of four. Drives me crazy. I can't say id have not had him cause fact imagine life without him. But having 2 would have been a lot easier. Always feel like one is being left out.
But as I'm one of three myself i can't imagine not having both my siblings and we are close as adults

I’m sorry I’m new to this, and have no idea why it was under bereavement. Xx

Third child was the best thing ever.

I don’t regret my 3rd at all. I always wanted 3 - am one of 3 myself. I also was pleased to have a boy after 2 girls. But I always come onto these threads to say how expensive children are & how much energy they take up!

As one of three siblings and also having 3 DC of my own, I definitely don’t regret my 3rd child (although when I found out I was pregnant again it was a massive shock, since there is approximately only a year between each child)

I wished several times I'd stopped at 2 ( although I wouldn't be without them) .....going back to having a baby when 2 were at school was really hard...and expensive....but now they are all grown, its lovely when we all get together ...and I have one of my grandchildren from my 3rd who wouldn't be here if I had stopped at 2

I am a third child and I have 3 DC.
It is harder to go from 2 to 3 than from 1 to 2 imo. Society is set up for families of 3 or 4.
I think your DH needs to be fully committed to 3 for things to be fully successful.

I love having three. It's a real joy to have a house full of children. No regrets here.

Nope, no regrets. No.3 was unexpected, the birth hideous and was
an absolute handful for the first 5 years!

However, was the most loving and cuddly of all my dc from the get go and is now a fabulous adult.

Obviously I love all my dc equally, they are all different in their own way and this was my experience with no.3

Just to give another take on one always feeling left put as a pp said- we have found it great as if one isn't in the mood to play, there is always another sibling to choose from. We did have them close together tho

My DH didn't want a third, it happened anyway (unplanned), was a bit of a shock and not great timing but we cannot imagine our lives without our DC3. However it is a big jump to go from 2 to 3, in terms of everything from cars, hotel rooms, being able to take them swimming, and generally getting three children who are inevitably spread out over a few years to where they need to be at the right time (e.g. baby always needed feeding when eldest needed collecting from school). However I love having 3 and our family is very happy.

No regrets having number 3, we always wanted 3 but after having our second we thought we were done, but the urge to have number 3 caught up with is in the end!( then want onto have a number 4 that was a surprise!)
Anyway in terms of parenting going from 2 to 3 has minimal impact.
What does have an impact is perhaps upgrading to a bigger car, 4th bedroom and often not fitting into a family ticket if out or family room when on holiday, obviously financial implications. But we don't regret it.

Probably should add that whilst I thought a third child wouldn't be much more work than 2, it absolutely was.

Obviously we needed a bigger car, bigger house, laundry seemed off the scale and holidays are mostly tailored to 2 adults, 2 dc and don't get me started on the school reading books-complete and utterly sick of Biff, Chip and Kipper!

However, still no regrets

Oh God, the laundry. It is endless.

3 dc, largeish gap after dc2. Not planned, but not unplanned - nature took its course and non, je ne regrette rien!

No regrets. But it's fucking HARD. Worh it in my opinion but not to be taken lightly! I had 3 dcs under 5 and I'm not quite sure how I'm still standing some years later!