My lo is 10 weeks old and ebf. We are first time parents. When lo was born the midwives and HV all said you can't overfeed a ebf and to offer breast when baby was showing signs of hunger or if you needed due to breasts being full, or if you just wanted to for bonding etc.
My PIL think I overfeed lo, although both their babies were formula fed so not really sure they can advise on ebf babies. But now my husband is starting is to hint he thinks I am overfeeding our lo now as he'll make a comment about me offering boob 'again' to lo, or if I need to feed little one as my boobs as engorged he says I'm only doing this for me and not for lo's benefit. Obviously it's uncomfortable being engorged or leaking which I don't think he understands. If I'm at home and if lo is asleep I'll try and express and freeze this but often lo will be asleep on my and I can't get to the pump, but if we are out I offer boob to lo. Husband thinks that the advice about you not being able to overfeed a breastfed baby is just for the newborn stage and now we are out of that I should be more careful about how often I'm offering it to lo and should maybe be starting to think about implementing a bit more of a routine as opposed to feeding on demand. Just to add husband would never want lo to be hungry so he's not suggesting to ignore lo's hunger cues at all!
Lo doesn't really do long feeds anymore like they used to, and we usually have 5 mins here and there, sometimes even less, but many times a day about up to 20 times a day, they do get so distracted now. Sometimes they'll maybe a longer feed of 15-20min feed maybe once a day. Am I creating a bad habit by allowing this? I think sometimes the short ones are just purely for comfort.
Also now lo is starting to sleep longer at night can I let them sleep for as long as they want to and not do a dream feed and just pump out the milk if they aren't wanting it or if I'm not engorged/leaking just not do anything or will this make my supply go down?
Lo hasn't been weighed by HV in ages but was around 30th centile at last check in so not big. There's nothing making me worry that they've put on too much, other than my mum and PIL always calling lo 'big', 'chunky', 'fatty', 'heffalump' etc. This is something I want to address as lo is growing up as don't want them to be body shamed. Lo has lovely little rolls on their legs and a bit of a tummy, but I know they'll lose this when they start being mobile, and they are still firmly in 0-3 month clothing with room to spare for a while yet.
Thanks for reading, sorry it's a long one!