Feeling rejected by toddler

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Firstly, I know IABU. I know a child shouldn’t be responsible for my emotions. But I’d just like a moan.

I’m a SAHM to my 18 mo DD. She just doesn’t seem to like me anymore! Until a few months ago I would get lots of cuddles etc, now I just get pushed away. She is very independent, but now has started having lots of tantrums usually caused by me doing something to set her off. Sometimes she will just look at me and that will set her off- she runs away from me, screaming/crying. Even when she’s calm she won’t let me near her - “no!” And pushes me away. If she falls and hurts herself she won’t let me comfort her, she will hide from me. If I try and play with her I do it wrong.

I know it’s normal but I’m just sad about it. Daddy is a favourite even tho he only sees her a minimal amount as he works long hours. Feeling unappreciated and is like a cuddle but I guess that’s just motherhood.

Check out this book called “No bad kids” by Jane Lansbury, I’m reading it now and it talks a lot about the behaviour you describe and how to manage it. Basically it’s all normally and actually, according to the book, a sign that your doing a good job! My 19 month old sounds similar although one day she’s like that with me and one day her Dad (we have equal amount of time with her)

I didn't get a look in when ds was a toddler. He screamed when dh left the house, couldn't give a shit when I did

He's 10 now and favours me now. They're fickle creatures

Daddy is a novelty, but you're around all the time - that's the reason she isn't excited about seeing you, not because she loves you any less! Honestly when DS spends an afternoon with granny I suddenly become the most exciting person too.

Had this too same age as did my sister. Really upsetting but just a phase. Weirdly seemed to be an eldest child thing for us none of our subsequent children were like this. My rejecting toddler now a lovely 15 year old we have a great relationship!