Burnout and no idea what to do next...

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I've name changed as friends know my user name.

DH and I are very supportive of each other. We have 2 DCs. We both take care of the children in terms of baths, feeding & putting to bed. I cook because I am a better cook and I enjoy it. DH does far more cleaning than I do.

I only work school hours (part time) from home. DH has a commute and works full time. I earn 2/3 of what DH earns. There is no pressure from DH for me to earn but my salary pays for the nice things - holidays, activities, savings etc.

For some time, all DC issues are my responsibility. If one of them is sick and stays home, or needs a dr appointment or anything I have to deal with it. My work is flexible but it then means that i have to work evenings and weekends.

I feel exhausted. This may sound selfish but i could really so with reducing my hours. Maybe have a day off work... just sit on the sofa all day and watch tv all day.

I really cant carry on feeling exhausted like this.

Are you asking for permission to do that? ☺️
If you can why not, if you can’t realistically maybe it needs to be a conversation about the mental load and devision of responsibility with your sh and/ or some temporary respite

Yes! Reduce your hours to 4 days, why not??

why do you need permission from mumsnet to reduce your hours?

Why does all the admin fall to you? I could understand this if you had any additional time off that your DH doesn’t have, but doesn’t sound like this is the case.

Take a few days off sick and recharge your batteries. Use the time to find something to look forward to.

I wouldn’t tell anyone you’re at home and let the day pass you by.

How old are the kids? How often are they getting sick and needing appointments for things?

Both DH and I work full time and my kids are in primary school. I do have times now when I feel like you describe, but they are becoming less frequent as my kids get older.