DS only wants daddy and it's breaking my heart

[giraffes2021]

So DS is almost 2 in April, recently he only wants daddy!
I have two days off in the week with him and his sister and he's completely fine then but the other days he just wants daddy. He won't even come near me or let me pick him up he just cries for his dad if he's home. It's awful he can't even leave him in the same room as me as he will just run after him crying his eyes out! I've never experienced this before DD is 4 and has never been like this!
Any tips? They stayed at grandparents on Friday night and when we went to pick them up DS wouldn't even come near me the whole day was heartbreaking

DS1 went through a huge daddy phase at a very similar age, I seem to recall it’s a development milestone as they realise they are a separate person from you. I remember reading something to do with attachment and it all sounded very normal! No issues at all now and the phase was very short lived. Never had it with DS2 so perhaps it’s just some of them (DS1 is now 8)!
I’ll see if I can find the article for you.

Here you go; www.news24.com/amp/parent/baby/toddler_1-2/the-daddy-phase-20170131

I had this with DS, but not DD. It's a normal development phase apparently.

DS was the same - all over daddy. Whilst heartbreaking DD had been similar with her dad and he hated it!

So we kind of took one each and it eventually evened out.

@StorminaBcup thank you so much!! I really hope it's short lived as it's bloody awful!!
I never had it with my DD either how strange

I could have written this about my 2.5 year old. I think it started when I was very pregnant with DS2 so DH did all bath/bed times and then they spent lots of time together so he didn't feel left out after the baby was born. I wonder if it'll change when he's older as it is heartbreaking :(

I had this with DS around the same age. It lasted for a good 4 months and I felt so rejected. Hang in there, it is just a phase and will get better!

It is honestly a normal stage, I know it's terribly upsetting at the time. Sometimes it's also about realising or trying to have the control/choose. Both dc went through stages of asking for one or the other of us and getting upset if thwarted. Remember the upset is more about having their choice rather than loving one parent more than the other.

What I would say, is if you had planned to do the stories etc, but they scream for the other parent, carry on with the plan.

I had this with DD and I'm sorry to say it lasted about a year. It got better when I took a week off and spent it just me and her going out to fun places and doing lots of fun stuff at home. I have no idea whether that was coincidence or causative though.

It was utterly brutal. I really hope this phase passes quickly.

Have this with 2y3m DD at the moment, ever since she spent a weekend with just DH while I took eldest on a trip to see my family. They are inseparable. I think it's because he's much more the "fun" parent than me. I'm trying to manage my own emotions with it but also encourage DH to take his fair share being the disciplinarian. I try and tell myself she spent the first 18 months of her life strongly preferring me (breastfeeding) so we're still nowhere near 50:50 even though it feels it's been ages in this phase now! It's really tough OP and I completely understand. I do genuinely find it hard not to treat her a bit differently because of it now that her language is so good and she can fully express how she feels ("I don't like mummy! I just like daddy!") but I'm just trying my best.