How to stop breastfeeding my 11 month old

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My DS is nearly 11 months. I went back to work few months ago but work from home a lot.

When he is looked after by other people (family/childminder) he is more than happy to drink formula from a bottle and eats plenty solid foods too

But when he's with me he is attached to me. So I always breastfeed him first thing and last thing in the day but if I'm with him he's sticking his head down my top. He breastfeed at night at least twice. But he just uses me as a big dummy...he just loves to chill while attached to me and gets so so upset if I try to stop him

I don't know how to stop. I googled and it says to replace one feed with a bottle but he doesn't have set feeds...he is just grazing all the time. And he's actually happy with a bottle

I am trying to stop but he cries so so much and just forces his head down into my chest.

Any tips?

As in if he's actually hungry he's happy to take the bottle. He's not really using me as a food source any more...comfort and habit. I don't want to upset him at the weekends my boobs are out all the time. Hahaha

Anyone? Do I just need to withstand the tears and clawing at me?

Hi OP,
I can only speak from my own experience - I stopped BF when DS2 was 12 months and I kind of did it cold turkey.. One feed before bedtime that was it for a couple of weeks. And then nothing. Just a cuddle and a bottle. He was quite grizzly for about a month that the transition went on but then just settled and started sleeping beautifully and went back to his chilled out old-self :-)

You definitely need a lot of patience but do persevere xx

If you join this group and search ‘stopping breastfeeding’ you’ll get some great advice 😊

www.facebook.com/groups/BFYummyMummy/?ref=share

I agree with cold turkey too, especially if he is happy to take a bottle! Both of mine refused bottles and milk in sippy cups, but i went cold turkey at 14 m and 16 m. You have to be firm and consistent. I just kept saying All Gone whenever they tried to claw my boobs out 😅 and thendistract with toy or snack, they soon learn. Careful of engorgement though with cold turkey, you might have to hand express or pump a bit to ease pressure off.

Good Luck!

Thanks so much for tips. I have an older DS who just stopped by himself when he was 10 months. But this one can't get enough! I think I will have to get better at distraction. He's teething and just wants to be attached but I need to start going into office and also just want to get into better night routine. Will have a bottle ready to go and toys too and I guess just accept we are gonna have some tears. He literally pulls my top down. Haha. Will see how it goes