You know you’ve done a good job bringing up your children when….

[Happytodayhappytomorrow]

This morning I heard Alexa say “shall I turn off all alarms?”

In reply, 20-year-old DS said
“Yes please”

So there is no confusion, I shall point out that this message is

1. tongue in cheek
2. all about the “please”

It’s the little things.

My teen boys all shout love you at each other when they go out. It makes me warm inside.

I came downstairs this morning after Dd15 had a friend over and I stayed upstairs all evening (got a Chinese for us all but let them have downstairs) .... came down and it was as tidy as when they arrived! Rubbish in the bin, table cleared and stuff stacked for washing.

Eight year old DS saying "after you" when we need to go through a door

@Quantity5

It’s the little things.

My teen boys all shout love you at each other when they go out. It makes me warm inside.

Omg I want this. Amazing.

@Quantity5

It’s the little things.

My teen boys all shout love you at each other when they go out. It makes me warm inside.

That is beautiful.

When they are brave enough to do things on their own - get the train etc

Mine make a great cup of coffee.

When I pick them up from a friends house and the other parent comments how polite and lovely they are.

My 4YO will often stop what she is doing and go up to her younger brother, give him a kiss and say I love you.

She/I often get complimented on her outstanding manners and it makes my heart swell every time especially when her response to this is "Thank You!"

One of the main ones is when I watch her with my grandparent, her great grandparent. How she adapts as a 4YO is amazing - she'll change how she plays things so my grandparent can join in for example, and she is forever following my grandparent around trying to help.

My youngest (now adult) with ADHD was told when he was 4 not to interrupt people when they were talking (like parent and teacher etc) but to say 'excuse me' then talk, he did that until he was in his 20s and so many adults were stunned at how polite he was. 😀

He also always says 'love you' when going out the door after someone mentioned the last thing they said to their son before he died in a m/c crash was an argument. He always makes sure the last thing he (may ever) say is 'love you', then no guilt if the worst happens. Bit of an odd reason but it works for him.

They are happy enough with who they are that they don't want to change themselves.

Also, walking home from school, my 10 year old will hold the 4yo’s hand, despite walking with all his friends. Not too cool 😎 other parents always comment how sweet it is. He lets him join in playing when his friends come over too

Cooda… and Lamps… thanks and yes. There have also been plenty of other moments when less lovely things have been shouted:) But it is lovely

When other people comment how smart, articulate and polite they are and how close they are to each other. When I had a nasty break up with my partner last year (not their dad) they helped me move ,decorated and renovated my house and generally supported me . I knew then I had done a good job .

@Quantity5

It’s the little things.

My teen boys all shout love you at each other when they go out. It makes me warm inside.

Bloody hell this is so sweet!

(My sister and I used to say love you before we fell asleep as teens. Actually we didn’t get along. But 30 years later we really do love each other. So in our case politeness training paid off - we faked it till we made it)

My ds when he was 16 was doing work experience for school in a local news papers. He was put sitting at a desk & given some work to do. During the week a lady came in that they wanted to introduce him to. He stood up & shook her hand. They said they’d never had a work experience teen stand up & shake hands like that & they were so impressed. I was so proud.

8 year old put all the shopping away and filled up the tea caddy yesterday without being asked

Teen offered to make dinner, and rescued the dog toy that was stuck in the tree after the storm

Then they both had a hug and teen apologised for being a bit shouty this week and told his brother he loved him really

Yesterday was a good day 😀😀

DS and I were on our own from when he was 2yo until 10yo when I met DD’s dad. I had DD when he was 16 but then 2 years later I split from her dad too. When I said ‘I can’t believe I’m going to be a single parent again!’ DS said ‘don’t worry mum you’re really good at it’ 😊

Separated from their father, it was hard bringing them up single-handedly for those 7 years., surviving the teenage years. A few months ago, my eldest dd, 20, said 'if I ever get married, I'd definitely want you to walk me down the aisle'. Dd2, aged 16 said 'me too!'.

Made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

My son came home from an A&E trip absolutely steaming with rage at a bit he’d never met before and exchanged a few words with while in the queue. The boy’s crime? He had been really rude to his mum on the phone - that is a mortal sin as “you just don’t do that”
Both kids also always makes sure their friends get home safe after they’ve drunk too much and they do the same for them.

A boy he’d never met before, not a bit.

The other thing is that when I was leaving the house at 7am each morning to do full-time work and I'd shout 'Am off now', both of them - every time - shout 'wait!', get up out of their bed and run down two flights of stairs to hug me, say they love me and goodbye ❤️

@whywouldntyou

My youngest (now adult) with ADHD was told when he was 4 not to interrupt people when they were talking (like parent and teacher etc) but to say 'excuse me' then talk, he did that until he was in his 20s and so many adults were stunned at how polite he was. 😀

He also always says 'love you' when going out the door after someone mentioned the last thing they said to their son before he died in a m/c crash was an argument. He always makes sure the last thing he (may ever) say is 'love you', then no guilt if the worst happens. Bit of an odd reason but it works for him.

My brother died in a car accident when he was 18.

Those were the last words we said to each other and the comfort it gives me is immense. It’s not a silly reason, he sounds lovely x

We ended up with loads of the next door neighbours greenhouse in our garden -aluminium frame and broken glass. I cleaned the broken glass up and the dog poo this morning in our garden whilst teenager was getting dressed.

I returned inside to find a warm hug and a cup of tea. I returned the neighbour's aluminium frame and our next door neighbour said there was loads of broken glass on their side and thanked us and apologised as we have dogs. Teenager has just dressed up warm with armed with rubber gloves and hat has gone to knock on the door to offer to clean up all the glass their side in their garden. It's lashing with rain and a mild wind here but she doesn't want them outside doing it -I'm sitting here hoping they will say yes to her offer.