Do I have a say now we've split up?

[hadenough1987]

Hi everyone. I split up with my partner a few months ago. We have 2 kids the youngest being only 4 months old. He wants to take them abroad to stay with his family but I’m not comfortable with it especially with the baby being so young. He was quite abusive to me.
Do I have any rights or say?

If he was abusive then all contact needs to be as court ordered. At a contact centre?
If he takes the kids out of the country could there be a chance he wouldn’t bring them back?

Do they have passports?

Yes. You absolutely have a say in whether your children leave the country. Apply for passports for the children if you haven't already and make sure they are kept in a safe place where your ex can not access them. He will need your permission to take them abroad. If you refuse he will need to go to court to get a special order. I can't see a court giving permission for such a young baby who needs to be close to mum.

He was abusive enough that you split with him only 2 months after giving birth, that's not something anyone would do lightly.
Given that he has been abusive , I wouldn't trust him to bring the children back, given that he has already demonstrated that he has no regard or respect for you. What sort of a man thinks it's OK to remove a baby from its mother?
So I would not agree for him to take your children abroad . I would be getting a Prohibitive steps order , and also passports for both children to ensure that he does not apply for them first. You need legal advice.
There is another thread today about the issues that could come up where a father wants to take his toddler to Nigeria, I'll post a link if I can find it, it's worth reading.
What country does he want to take them to?

You order them passports and keep them at yours. You can go to court to stop him taking them out the country.
Especially if he has family abroad and was abusive.
His plan has international custody dispute written all over it, head if off by keeping them in the UK.