Handhold needed

[thaimoon]

My little 18mo dd is poorly again.

This is the third illness pretty much in a row, she has still got the marks on her hands and lips from hand foot and mouth, and now she has a high temp and is off her food. Tonight when I went to read her bedtime story she said "no, bed" so I just put her down and she was asleep before I left the room. She looked so sad 😞.

Not sure why I'm posting, I just need a little bit of a handhold I guess. She's my first and maybe it's a pfb thing but I'm a bit of a worrier at the best of times and I hate seeing her unwell. I always wonder if I've done the right thing choosing which tog sleeping bad because of her temperature and whether I should stay in her room or not.

It's also a bit that I'm missing the happy and fun times we have when she is well, dreading the mealtimes struggles and, if I'm totally honest, was really hoping for a weekend with dh home where we didn't have a miserable child.

I hope this is nothing serious and she is feeling better in the morning 🙏

It's so tough when they are poorly x

Thank you. Yep it is and I just wish I could take it away

Does anyone regularly check their child's temperature overnight? I don't know if I should I don't want to disturb her

@thaimoon

Does anyone regularly check their child's temperature overnight? I don't know if I should I don't want to disturb her

Yes I do; even when DD appears well. She was ill so much for her first 18 months of nursery that I think it’s left me with some kind of PTSD - I immediately feel sick if she starts coughing, obsessively monitor her temperature even when she is well & basically fall apart if I think she’s poorly. It absolutely sucks and you have my sympathies. Apparently it’s worse at the moment because the covid lockdowns let some nasty viruses brew up

My granddaughter is constantly ill. She’s a similar age. Children born during lockdown didn’t get exposed to all the germs they need to build up their immunity so they seem to get every illness going. It’s a worry .

Sorry OP. I say that if you feel you should take temp then do it. You probably won't sleep very well anyway. Hope she feels better in the morning.

@Cheekypeach this is me exactly.

OP do you have a scan thermometer. Not always 100 percent accurate but good enough to give you peace of mind without waking them.

My 21 month old DD is unwell too, has been for a week.. Temperature, full of cold, a cough.. makes me so sad. I also have it now so I understand how rough she feels (covid negative!)

Ds is the same op. Since November hes had gastro, tonsillitis, 2 colds, croupe and probably covid (me and dh positive as LO was poorly too) and when he gets a cold or cough he's always sick through coughing. Its awful and tbh I usually keep him in my room when he's ill as I'm a worrier too. Its their age there's so many bugs they need to catch to build Immunity its awful I feel like he's never well bless him

Hi OP, so sorry your little one is unwell, it’s awful. My DS is the same age and has been hospitalised twice once with a UTI when he was tiny and then with a nasty virus so every time he gets a temp/any sign of being poorly I get so panicky. I would check her overnight but probably wouldn’t do a full temperature, in my experience you can feel when they have a proper temp without using a thermometer, obviously if I then thought she was hot I would check properly because there’s a big difference between 37.9 and 39.9 in terms of worry for me!! With my DS if he has a temp his ears always go really red and hot so that’s my barometer! Hope your LO has a good sleep and is feeling better in the morning xx

My DS would always get a ragging temperature when ill. He's 16 now and I still go in and check on him during the night.

Sleep is the bodies way of resting so if can divert it's energy to kill off the bugs.

By all means check her temp during the night as if a spike goes untreated, it won't help her feel any better.

I do sympathise, it's awful when your child is ill 💐

Thanks everyone your kindness helped a lot. She's a little brighter this morning so hopefully it will pass quickly whatever it is

Well DD has just come down with her first virus in a few months, she’s got a very phlegmy and tickly sounding cough and a snotty nose. Had a temperature last night but not today. I keep pulling her top up to check for the ‘sucking in’ she had last time she needed to go into hospital for oxygen 😣 even though she’s jumping on the bed and generally seems fine in herself. I’m a paranoid wreck if im honest.