7 week old won’t let me pop him down

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Just wondering if this is normal? For the past 2-3 weeks our 7 week old won’t let us put him down in the day. He’ll only nap when held. Luckily of a night he’s fine and hopefully that remains - but in the day it’s a struggle getting anything done as we’re holding him!

DH says we should let him cry while we do tasks as he’ll learn then that it’s normal to be put down and not on us. I extremely disagree with this as I feel it’s similar to the cry it out method which is something I personally don’t want to do! Anytime he cries I pick him up and soothe him

He said because I’ve always done this and always held him etc this is why he’s gotten to wanting to be held all the time

I’ve said it’s normal but I don’t actually know if it is. Is it normal?? I feel guilty I don’t want my baby to be so dependent on me that one day stuff like nursery and school unsettled
S him because I wont be there?

Please help

Completely normal. Google the 4th trimester. You can’t cuddle a baby too much but you can not cuddle them enough. Maybe try a sling.

Hi. This is very normal and he will grow out of it. Do you have a sling? I carried my son around most of the day when he was a newborn for naps and everything in between. I even breastfed in a sling whilst doing stuff. Then at 5/6 months I did some gentle sleep training to get him to nap in his cot.

Your dh is seriously mistaken. You cannot spoil a baby. Cuddling them and soothing them won't prevent them becoming independent (in fact it's this early soothing and comfort that enables them to grow into confident adults). Your baby absolutely needs your love and comfort and it is totally appropriate to be holding your baby when they cry. You're not creating a rod for your back- this is a very old fashioned idea.

I suggest your husband has a read about the 4th trimester and about attachment theory.

You're doing a great job!

Not unusual for seven weeks. You can usually lie a baby down when he or she has gone to sleep but if awake, they want to be with you. In a while they can sit and amuse themselves a bit while do things, as long as it's in the same room.

Early days, op.

But if you need to put him down to go to the loo, or open the oven or something, he will be fine.

It is very normal, however I also don't think you need to just never put him down. I never went for the whole baby wearing thing because i didn't want to and found it very overwhelming.

Keep persisting with putting him down now and then throughout the day for short periods and of course picking him up if he gets upset. Gradually he'll be more content without being held .

Every baby is different, my eldest was similar. My youngest would start making noise and if I was busy doing something I'd just pop him down somewhere else for a change of surroundings and he was fine! It's nothing that you've created, you don't need to worry about creating bad habits at this age. They change and grow up so much in the first year.

Use a sling or carrier if you can to get jobs done.

I had the same and it used to drive me mad. Then I remembered that they're only little like that for such a short time that you need to make the most of it! Get a cuppa/ box set on and cuddle your baby. Im pretty sure my 7mo will now be put down for naps, but I wont be letting DH know as I love it so much!
Ignore any housework or DH and treasure the time! X

Thanks for the reassurance. I really want to enjoy it but when DH was saying all of this I just worried that I was doing something wrong/implementing a bad habit

I see it as he needs his mum and we all need our mum in different ways throughout our life but I didn’t want to be doing anything that would be bad for him

He hasn't learned to want to be held and comforted when he cries; this is how he feels, you didn't make him that way he's a baby that's what they want!
I had to double check the age to see if you were talking about an older child needing to learn you have other things to do at times. He barely knows you are a separate entity to him just now. Put him down when you need to - for toilet trips and to make some food, important stuff! - but don't do it because you are worried about what you're teaching him.
You're actually teaching him that he can trust you to help when he needs it.

My Dd was like this, and tbh sometimes I did have to just let her cry. Not for ages or as an attempt to get her to “learn”, but just while I went for a wee or made a really quick sandwich. I was always within sight, and chatting/singing away to her, not that it helped. But she hated the sling as well and I couldn’t physically carry her all day, I needed food!

This is absolutely normal and your DH is wrong. Of course if you need to go to the loo or get a drink or get the pram ready or something you sometimes have to plonk them down for a minute or 2 and they might get upset, that’s fine, but to suggest that a 7 week old baby needs to be left to cry while you get on with things is awful. My DS only napped on me or in a moving pushchair until he was 8 months old (but from about 3 months he would sit in his bouncy chair or lie on his play mat for some chunks of time when he was awake so I could get some jobs done then) he sleeps 12 hours overnight in his own room now and naps in his cot, we worked on those things when he was older and ready. Right now just soak up those cuddles, especially if he’s sleeping well at night so you can enjoy snuggling in the day without having to prop your eyes open with matchsticks!